John Wineland | A New Masculine Paradigm: Leading With Love, Living Your Truth + Healing The World
Wellness + Wisdom Podcast
Josh Trent
4.8 • 913 Ratings
🗓️ 21 March 2023
⏱️ 96 minutes
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Summary
Each unconscious abdication of leadership in a relationship is a pin prick to her heart. Over the course of the years, thousands of these moments will scar or harden her. As time went by she and she felt your lack of presence, awareness, and attention to her body and feelings, she got angry. - John Wineland
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Wellness + Wisdom Episode 538
John Wineland, a teacher, speaker, and entrepreneur, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast to discuss his own obstacles in life, why we need to expand our capacity for presence within our relationships, and what the new masculine paradigm looks like.
Are you ready to explore the new masculine paradigm and learn how to lead from a place of love?
In this episode, you will learn how to navigate romantic relationships, why we need to heal generational trauma, and what it means to receive the wisdom of the moment.
Listen To Episode 538 As John Wineland Uncovers:
[01:30] Navigating Grief And Loss
- What motivates John to seek men's groups and create one himself.
- Why he's been feeling confused after losing his only child.
[08:20] The New Masculine Paradigm
- Why John feels blessed and grateful for the varied life experiences he's been through.
- The importance of always having a teacher and being a student.
- What the new masculine paradigm looks like.
- How the field of awareness lets us experience reality.
- Why the toxic masculine puts productivity and achievements first.
- How toxic masculinity became a byproduct of feminism for women.
[24:15] Heart Liberation + Conscious Relationships
- Why we need our hearts liberated to grow our capacity to love and lead.
- How we can bring ancient wisdom into the modern world.
- Why breathwork is a necessary practice when it comes to awareness.
- How grounding positively impacts our nervous system.
[32:27] How To Bring Presence Into Romantic Relationships
- How to expand our capacity for presence, awareness, and attention.
- The difference between showing up as a domestic and a romantic partner.
- How the masculine hurts the feminine heart.
- Why what love wants is not always the same as what we want.
- How we unconsciously project resentment onto our partner.
- Why we need to drop into our heart to feel what we need.
[48:10] Healing Generational Wounds
- The myth of a good husband.
- Why women are 100 thousand years ahead of men.
- John's journey to a purposeful life and clearing his family's karma.
- What it means that we're responsible for the sins of our fathers.
[01:03:10] Slow Down To Receive The Wisdom Of The Moment
- Why epigenetics is embodied karma according to John.
- How to cultivate spaciousness for trauma.
- What motivated John to start a teacher training program.
- How to activate your mind, body, and heart.
- Why slowing down is a better strategy for success.
- The beauty of receiving the wisdom of the moment.
- How wisdom can be clouded by wounding.
Power Quotes From The Show
What Love Wants
"There's what you want, what both of you and your partner want, and then what love wants. Tuning into what love wants may often be at the expense of what you want, sometimes at the expense of what your partner wants. Your capacity to tune into what love wants from a trustable place is a big part of masculine leadership." - John Wineland
True Change
"No true change in behavior or thinking can come without an awakened body and an activated heart and a spacious mind." - John Wineland
The Wisdom Of The Moment
"Stop doing, stop striving, stop practicing. Relax into receiving the wisdom of the moment through your body and wait for some intuitive thought, something to come through, some next move. Receive the wisdom of the moment. Whatever comes through you, it's coming from a deeper place than your habitual thoughts." - John Wineland
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About John Wineland
For over a decade, John Wineland, an LA-based teacher, speaker, and entrepreneur has been leading both men and women in the realms of relationships, sexual intimacy, and life purpose.
Known for his groundbreaking work with men, John is the founder of The New Men's Work Project, which is charged with the lofty goal of creating 1000 men's groups worldwide and has attracted members from across the globe who are looking to lead more embodied purpose-driven lives.
With a diverse background that includes a long history as an entry, as well as in the yogic, tantric, and relational arts, John brings a wide scope of meditation, movement, and intimacy practices to his experiential workshops and coaching sessions.
John Wineland's Programs & Workshops
Today John's work spans the sexual divide and he's known as much in the women's and couples' intimacy arenas for facilitating programs in the Art of Embodiment and Sexual Intimacy.
John's recent workshop offerings include Beyond Your Edge: Love, Sex and Purpose on Higher Plane, Integrity as Masculine Practice, The Art of Loving Fiercely, and Breath and Sexual Energy. In 2014, John launched The Aquarian Relationship Series, a 21st-century exploration into Intimacy and Polarity practices with his teaching partner, renowned Master Kundalini Yoga Instructor, Guru Jagat.
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| 0:00.0 | The wound is where you serve from. You integrate your wound and it allows you to be a better leader. |
| 0:06.0 | I do feel that that's true and I do feel that leaning into the loss and grief of Claire has been really helpful for me as a teacher to learn you know how to |
| 0:14.3 | share from there and be able to access my heart from there. I'd been in a couple of |
| 0:20.1 | relationships that didn't work out and I think a lot of that was mainly because I was still |
| 0:24.4 | grieving Claire or choosing things from a confused place. Like I'm so blessed at the spectrum of life that I've been able to live. I've experienced the most gut-wrenching |
| 0:36.5 | pain and the most, you know, ecstatic bliss that a human can experience. This is something that I think a lot of men's work |
| 0:44.3 | misses, right? Is that the masculine is not in experience. It's not just |
| 0:49.2 | fucking pounding your chest and warring up unless you are able to stay connected to that which is never |
| 0:54.7 | changing. The you before you were born, right? That you is going to be the same |
| 0:59.2 | you when you die. And this is where Buddhism comes right? Because the capacity to really stay in that deep tether |
| 1:06.0 | to that which never changes, while fully experiencing |
| 1:09.7 | everything changing all the time right now is a true masculine embodiment. |
| 1:15.0 | Men want to love their partners really well and then I think what happens is they get |
| 1:20.1 | confused because the things that they thought worked aren't working. |
| 1:26.8 | For over a decade, John Weiland has been teaching men and women in the realms of relationship, |
| 1:32.1 | sexual intimacy and life purpose, I came across |
| 1:35.0 | John Wineland's work shortly after I read David Data's books, specifically the way |
| 1:39.4 | the Superior Man in about 2014, John is an absolute game changer. People throw around that word, he truly |
| 1:46.2 | is. John is a game changer when it comes to the game of the sexual divide, you know, the illusion |
| 1:51.9 | that the dark shadows of what Young calls the |
| 1:54.2 | enema and the enemus, what they tell us about ourselves, and that same dark shadow |
| 1:58.2 | that tends to propagate in the media to drive clicks that there's no such thing as gender that men and women are the same |
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