The wiring of our limbic system is strung pretty tightly from infancy. If your Mama made lots of eye contact, you’re probably in the clear: The integrity of that wiring comes from early experiences of bonding, emotional closeness, security, and trust.

But unlike more recently evolved parts of our brain that constantly learn and change, our limbic system is a tough nut to crack.

One of the only things that can change our limbic response is other people.

We sync up to, adjust, and strengthen the systems of others through limbic regulation.

How To Wire Your Limbic System For Love

Like mind control, limbic regulation is the ability to “adjust and fortify one another’s fragile neural rhythms in the collaborative dance of love.” Relationships exist in open-loops and are reciprocal exchanges that constantly regulate the physiologies of its participants.

Psychologists poetically describe limbic regulation as a “shimmering conduit” to “tinker with one another’s psychology.”

We intermingle our rhythms and energies to regulate each other. Think of how powerful that is. Our physical body affects and is affected by other physical bodies. Consider yourself a source of energetic radioactivity.

You, by being you, impact another’s experience of themselves. This brings new light to the saying, “Who we are depends in part on who we love.”

This interview was inspired by Jessica's insightful and though provoking article "Wire Your Limbic System For Love" 

About Jessica Carson

Jessica Carson is a writer, entrepreneur, venture capitalist, and yoga/meditation teacher.

She started her career as a Neuroscience & Psychology Research Fellow at the National Institutes of Health (NIH), before entering the world of startups and venture capital. With a passion for psychology, innovation, and entrepreneurship, she now innovates new products for the American Psychological Associat