JAY JAIRDULLO | Why Self-Image is Everything

Order of Man

Ryan Michler

Business, Health, Leadership, Relationships, Man, Society & Culture, Intellect, Style, Lifestyle, Money, Selfdevelopment, Wealth, Fitness, Selfhelp, Nutrition

4.8 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

What you think of yourself is directly correlated with the kind of man you are or will become. If you believe yourself to be a victim of circumstances beyond your control, you will be. If, alternatively, you believe the world is conspiring for your benefit, it will be. It is quite literally self-fulfilling prophesy.

My guest today, Jay Jairdullo, knows exactly what this is like after spending 25 years in law enforcement and now a college wrestling coach, he has had to redefine himself over and over again. Today, Jay and I talk about what he calls “false masculinity,” avoiding slipping back into old patterns, the importance of core values, overcoming the victimhood mentality, and keeping yourself and others off pedestals you don’t belong.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Building Brotherhood and Friendship
04:00 – Self-Image and Overcoming Excuses
10:00 – Shifting Identity and Mindset
14:00 – Lessons from a Career in Law Enforcement
18:00 – Loyalty, Support, and Marriage Dynamics
22:00 – Rebuilding Trust and Reputation
26:00 – Focusing on Positives vs Negatives
30:00 – Emotional Intelligence and Fatherhood
33:00 – Leadership: Autocratic vs Democratic
36:00 – Masculinity, False Masculinity, and Clarity
41:00 – Values, Vision, and Decision-Making
46:00 – Aligning Actions with Identity
48:00 – Retirement, Reflection, and New Purpose
52:00 – Connecting Through the Iron Council

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0:00.0	What you think of yourself is directly correlated with the kind of man you are or will become.
0:05.8	If you believe yourself to be a victim of circumstances beyond your control, you will be.
0:12.0	If alternatively, you believe the world is conspiring for your benefit, it also will be.
0:17.7	It is quite literally self-fulfilling prophecy.
0:20.7	My guest today, Jay Jardulo, knows exactly
0:23.1	what this is like after spending 25 years in law enforcement and now a college wrestling coach.
0:29.8	He has had to redefine himself over and over again. Today, Jay and I talk about what he calls
0:35.5	false masculinity, avoiding slipping back into old patterns, the importance of core values, overcoming the victimhood mentality and keeping yourself and others off pedestals you don't belong.
0:48.0	You're a man of action.
0:49.4	You live life to the fullest.
0:50.9	Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
0:53.8	When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time,
0:57.3	every time.
0:58.3	You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
1:03.4	This is your life, this is who you are.
1:05.9	This is who you will become.
1:07.6	At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
1:10.7	you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, welcome to the Order of the day and after all is said and done you can call yourself a man gentlemen
1:13.3	welcome to the order a man podcast i am ryan mickler obviously last week was a wild and crazy week
1:19.1	and not a good way we had so much going on with the memorial of 9-11 and of course the murder of
1:26.6	charlie kirk it has been a wild one over here. And it reinforces
1:31.8	to me the value and the importance of the work that we're doing to reclaim and restore
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