Iyanla: The Return of Neffe & Soullow

Iyanla: Fix My Life

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Society & Culture

4.7 • 827 Ratings

🗓️ 22 October 2019

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Former reality stars Neffeteria "Neffe" Pugh and her husband, Shelby (aka "Soullow"), return to Iyanla in an attempt to heal their broken marriage for a second time. Iyanla first meets with Neffe to understand what has changed--or what hasn't changed--since last year's healing work. After listing excuses for why she didn't complete her homework, Neffe admits she has not taken advantage of the tools and resources that Iyanla offered her last year. Neffe chose not to attend the weekend retreat that Iyanla graciously invited her to, has not stopped drinking and has refused outside help at every opportunity. Neffe also tells Iyanla that since her last visit, she has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by a medical professional, but is in denial that this is a possible diagnosis. After pouring destructive behaviors into their relationship, the couple finally reaches the unfortunate breakthrough they were desperately seeking, and agree to end their marriage.

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0:00.0	Let me tell you who I am.
0:02.0	I am a survivor, a teenage mother, a welfare recipient, and a woman.
0:08.0	I am a teacher, life coach, minister, lawyer, and author.
0:13.0	I've had my share of breakups, breakdowns, and breakthroughs.
0:18.0	I did my work and put my life back together piece by piece. I am I
0:23.0	am I, Yonla Van Zandt, and I am here to help you do your work. To fix, renew,
0:31.1	realign, to restore, this is the intention of fix my life. I love you without all of this, without Nephi,
0:39.8	and I want to stand next to you.
0:42.3	Last season, I worked with reality star Nefertaria Pew
0:45.8	and her husband, Shelby,
0:47.8	to try to renew, realign, and restore their broken marriage.
0:51.8	Now hug her, because I'm not here.
0:54.6	Leaving them, ultimately, with a sense of hope.
0:58.8	But what happens after the fix when the renewal fades
1:03.3	and the alignment becomes misaligned
1:06.1	and the purpose is no longer conscious?
1:10.4	I am back on I yala because I did not get what I was searching for the first time.
1:16.8	Are you the fucking serious right now?
1:19.7	Shelby, you have got to be freaking kidding me.
1:23.3	I was just so suppressed and guarded.
1:26.0	The last time I saw Miss V, I was emotionally distraught.
1:29.5	Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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