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In the Loop with Andy Andrews

ITL207: Avoiding Conflict at All Costs Is Very Often Costly

In the Loop with Andy Andrews

Matt Lempert

Business

4.9 • 614 Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2015

⏱️ 27 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question on what to do when someone asks for a letter of recommendation when you wouldn’t recommend them.

 

How authentic are we going to be in our lives?

  • This dials down into who we are as much as who they are.
  • There is pain and confrontation that could be avoided, but should it?
  • There is the opportunity for retreat or deceit. This is an odd situation that many of us have found ourselves in.

 

When we are asked to write a letter of recommendation for someone we absolutely love, we’re excited and we start thinking of other ways we could possibly help.

  • Think about your
  • Would you like somebody to throw a hand grenade into it?
  • When we write a letter of recommendation and that person fails miserably because of a character flaw or bad habits, it’s not just them who gets the bad mark—it’s you.

 

What kind of people are you wanting to be around, and who are you wanting to become?

  • If this person is someone you would not recommend for a job, they’re probably more of an acquaintance, or at least someone you shouldn’t be spending a lot of time with anyway.
  • You have the opportunity to tell the truth with concern, love, and the possibility of their life being set on a different, more positive course.

 

Tune in to hear how the response you receive from someone you wouldn’t recommend ultimately determines whether that person is wise or foolish.

 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective

0:06.5

with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews.

0:10.4

Now here's your host, David Loy.

0:12.9

Hi and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews.

0:16.2

I'm your host, David Loy.

0:17.8

Andy, how are you today?

0:18.6

I'm doing great, buddy.

0:19.6

How are you?

0:20.1

I am fantastic, excited to be here. We love doing these. Matthew, how are you today? I'm doing great, buddy. How are you? I am fantastic,

0:21.2

excited to be here. We love doing these. Matthew? How are you? Matt's done good? He gave us the

0:26.7

thumbs up. No microphone over there, but Matt, our producer, punches the buttons, holds this

0:31.3

thing together. He is the glue of In the Loop. He holds the whole thing together. Without

0:35.4

Matt, it falls apart. So, Matt, thank you very much.

0:40.6

Oh, gosh. The three of us have been working a lot together lately. I think we've mentioned this

0:45.7

before, but some of the online products and coaching sessions and webinars that have been going on.

0:50.9

I'm glad we are. And I told you, I'd be hanging out with you guys if we weren't working together. But we've been doing podcasts. We've been doing the unshakable entrepreneur. That was awesome. It really was. I mean, for me, I hope it was good for everybody else. Yeah. And we're, you know, now I guess a month or more removed from when that took place live. I'm hearing a lot about that. Yeah, the reaction has just

1:11.4

been outstanding. I feel like we've hit on some pain points and really pushed a hot button

1:16.7

with a lot of people out there that either already have their own business, want to start their

1:21.0

own business. But that program, the unshakable entrepreneur, it was a blast to do. And because of the reaction

1:29.4

we've received, we're already planning the next one. We're planning the next iteration of something

1:35.2

along those lines. So if you enjoyed that or if you missed it, either way, stay tuned because

1:40.8

there's more of that material coming. You know, I keep here and I have for a while, you know, people will say, could I talk

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