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Today, I'm going to be talking about trust.

It's a huge topic when you love someone suffering from addiction.

And it's something we've got to go over because I just had a huge aha moment a couple

of weeks ago in my own personal life of concerning trust as I thought, oh my gosh,

I need to share this because I think it will apply to you too.

So a lot of you, a lot of you in our community talk about Michelle, I don't know how to trust.

When do I know that I can actually begin to trust that what they say is true, that when they tell

me that they want to get sober, they're actually really mean at this time, that when they tell

me they love me, they really do love me, and I can start to trust and receive that, that when

they say they're going to show up for my daughter's surgery, my son's soccer game, whatever,

that they actually are going to do that. And it's so frustrating when you love someone suffering

from addiction because your desire in your heart is to trust. You want to trust the person

that you are in love with. Trust is one of those fundamental qualities in a romantic relationship

that makes it good, that makes it safe. When you feel like you can trust the person that you're

in love with, you feel safe. But here's the truth. And it's really quite simple. You can't trust

somebody that's actively struggling with addiction, whether it's addiction to drugs or alcohol or

pornography, whether it's addiction to gambling or sex, whatever they're addicted to,

it is almost impossible for you to trust them. Because 99.9% of the time, when there is addiction

involved, there are also lies and deception or manipulation or half truths or quote white lies,

little baby lies. That's they usually go hand in hand. Addictions best friend is lies. And why? Because

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