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Is 'Trauma Dumping' the New TMI? Navigating the Shifting Conventions Around What’s OK to Share

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KQED

News Commentary, News, Politics

4.2727 Ratings

🗓️ 16 December 2022

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Back when there was no TikTok, Instagram or social media, there was a concept known as “polite conversation” that defined what you could or should say in public. Now, many people feel freer to share stories about their lives. But has it gone too far? Where is the line between bringing our authentic selves into a conversation and “trauma dumping?” We’ll talk about why and how norms surrounding what’s okay to share have shifted and how to manage them. Guests: Thea Monyee, licensed marriage and family therapist; founder, MarleyAyo, a creative wellness consulting company. Michael Waters, freelance journalist, recent Atlantic article "The Decline of Etiquette and the Rise of 'Boundaries.'" Lizzie Post, a great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post; co-author, "Emily Post's Etiquette: The Centennial Edition"; co-president, The Emily Post Institute (Vermont). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Here's a question before us this morning.

0:52.8

Do we know too much about those around us?

0:55.0

Maybe it's a co-worker who overshares, maybe it's just someone in line at the grocery store

0:59.0

who divulges their entire romantic history between the beeps of the checkout gun.

1:03.0

Etiquette, as it was once known, and polytests, as the high-minded might have called it, has broken down.

1:09.0

And there's a lot to celebrate in the explosion of conversational norms

1:12.6

that kept people's truth from being brought into everyday conversation.

1:16.6

But, as an Atlantic essay notes,

1:18.6

if society-wide norms have loosened,

1:20.6

that means individuals have taken on the burden of navigating their own boundaries.

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