I think we need to have a discussion, guys, about the question of, is he a boyfriend?

Or is he a trauma bond?

Hmm?

Is he a boyfriend or is he a trauma bond?

Because this one that you keep on, you keep on

going back. I'm not understanding, no. This one is, is beyond me. Now, why I'm talking about

this is because I've experienced this a lot where not only have I had this happen in my own

personal life through like women that I've met along the way on my life journey, but even just women who have DM'd me saying that they've run into this issue with their friend.

I might actually need to read this message out because this happened today on my story where I posted it because I felt like this isn't just one person that needs to hear this.

I think this is a very common situation.

So, this person messaged me and of course it's anonymized.

Please, how do I help my best friend who is demanding respect from a trash boy, who she wants to be exclusive with, but at the same time, he is fucking people we know?

I've just seen your video about neurodivergent girls becoming obsessed, and I'm scared she can see all the red flags but is ignoring them

thinking he'll be different for her slash their relationship is different to the other ones he's

having how many times have I heard this before how many times have I seen this before? How many times have I seen this play out before? Many

fucking times. So in response to this person's message, I said, because what I did was I posted

the message on my story, but I like removed their identity. So I said in response, you leave her to learn her lesson. It's her own time she's wasting.

Many times I've experienced having friends who keep staying with men who don't respect them.

And despite them cyclically calling me to vent and cry, they still go back after asking me for my advice, which is almost always to leave.

This is why I implore women to have hobbies, interests and relationships outside of one singular man.

But straight women don't listen.

It's draining, but I think there's a complexity to being there for female friends

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