Is Every App a Dating App? & Friends with Benefits
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 6 April 2021
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
Not having the best luck meeting people on dating apps? This episode is all about other ways you can put yourself out there and find love. Whether it be the comment section of a post on any platform, through TikTok (Jonah’s favorite dating app), sliding into the DMs, or finding love on Club Penguin (Ilana’s pick), it’s not all about dating apps. Our listeners chime in to tell us about their experiences meeting people via email, Instagram DM, and from a TikTok video. We discuss the right ways to approach people on all different platforms so you can set yourself up for success. Later, we change gears to meeting someone IRL– in an elevator to be specific, as we sit down with Ilana’s good friend and former FWB, Alex. Ilana and Alex share their story of their transition from friends, to friends with benefits, to a situationship that took them on a European "honeymoon," all the way to a potential relationship, and finally to a friendship-ruining spiral. We dive into the nuances of friends with benefits, whether or not it’s possible to go from FWB to a relationship, and if you can be FWB without ruining the friendship.
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| 0:11.0 | Well, we met via email. |
| 0:13.8 | It was a 72 email exchange love affair. |
| 0:18.4 | Basically, one of my close friends is his manager and the first email I got was from him |
| 0:23.7 | about attending a Zoom feedback session for his new movie, which I couldn't attend. And so I ever so |
| 0:30.6 | politely emailed him why I wouldn't be attending. And he ever so politely responded. He was Tom Hanks and I was Meg Ryan. |
| 0:39.2 | And if you don't understand that reference, then I feel sorry for you. |
| 0:43.3 | But we didn't even know what each other looked like, or I didn't know what he looks like, |
| 0:48.9 | until eventually around email 65, he adds me on Instagram. |
| 0:54.6 | I mean, I get it. |
| 0:56.5 | I guess the modern next step had to happen eventually, right? |
| 1:00.2 | But I'll never forget the excitement of checking my emails |
| 1:04.1 | and seeing his name pop up in my inbox. |
| 1:07.9 | You've got mail. |
| 1:09.9 | Except it's not AOL, but we can pretend. |
| 1:18.4 | So I sent a DM to this girl, which I personally think is the best way to go about |
| 1:22.8 | approaching girls or approaching people in general just through Instagram DM because |
| 1:26.8 | your whole background |
| 1:27.8 | is right there like they can click on your page look through your stuff and kind of get a feel for you are |
| 1:31.6 | so um I would just shoot my shot on Instagram DM always and I DM this girl Ellie and I said just messing |
| 1:38.9 | around like nothing serious I was like whatever um I heard you think I'm hot and And I just made that up, like, never heard anything about her. |
| 1:46.0 | We just had a couple mutual friends. And I thought she was really pretty. So I just wanted to, like, shoot my shot, like I said before. And it took her, like, two weeks to reply. And she replied with, you heard wrong. Ha, ha, ha. And then I just wrote back, I don't believe you. and that was it like Like, that was in November, I think, of 2017. And then fast forward to the summer of 2018, we were both standing outside this bar, but, like, didn't know. I didn't know she was there. She didn't know I was there. And one of my friends screamed out my name saying, like, yo, what's up? And then she heard overheard, like, who's Johnny Lazar lazarus and i like i said i am why and then i |
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