Introversion, Extroversion, and Your Social Battery
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
5 • 717 Ratings
🗓️ 1 December 2025
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen plug into the world of social battery: how much emotional energy we have for connection before we start feeling depleted. They talk through why some people can socialize endlessly while others need significant downtime, and how much factors like temperament, stress load, and basic needs (sleep, food, overstimulation) shape our capacity. Em shares how her battery stays strong when her needs are met, while Jen talks about her natural rhythm of engaging deeply and then requiring real time to recharge.
They explore how to recognize when your social battery is running low and why neither introversion nor extroversion protects you from shame, awkwardness, or the realities of social battery. Listener questions cover topics like explaining low social energy to extroverted family members, navigating the guilt of not matching someone else’s pace, and distinguishing between needing rest versus anxiety pulling you away from connection. They also address how chronic pain can shrink social bandwidth and offer ways to bring joy back into social experiences in a sustainable way.
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| 0:00.0 | Let me tell you something. When you start being authentic about where your social battery is in a room, other people feel brave enough to be authentic about where their social battery is too. |
| 0:12.5 | Like people see that and they're like, I have been feeling that way for two hours and I didn't feel like I could express myself. |
| 0:19.4 | Like how many times have you been in a room and |
| 0:22.1 | your social battery has died and you stayed there for longer than you wanted to? |
| 0:25.6 | Often. |
| 0:36.2 | Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks. |
| 0:38.9 | Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about, well, you. |
| 0:44.1 | I'm Emily Beirley. |
| 0:45.2 | And I'm Jennifer Chakin. |
| 0:46.5 | And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts. |
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