Intimacy Avoidance In A Narcissistic Relationship - You are NOT Frigid!

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 22 February 2022

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

It’s so common to avoid intimacy once you discover that you are in a relationship with a narcissist, and no, it isn’t because you are frigid! In this episode, I will discuss how our nervous system reacts to intimacy with a narcissist and why your reaction will usually keep you safe.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

How your approach to sex is impacted by being in a relationship with a narcissist
Why you will avoid intimacy to stay safe in your relationship
Strategies to regain an intimate life after leaving a narcissist
How to admit to avoiding intimacy

I’ll also discuss how to regain your intimacy once you’ve left a narcissistic relationship by being able to deconstruct the emotions you are feeling and using a negative reaction to create a positive outcome. We can’t change what has happened, but we can absolutely change how your body reacts to your past experiences.

Resources:

Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.6	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.5	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you. And this show is all
0:22.8	about taking you from trauma to transformation. Hey, my friends, I hope you are all well and
0:30.7	okay and staying safe. I've been in LA actually for the last week at a mastermind. And I've got some incredible ideas of how to help
0:40.2	you guys all moving forward as well. So keep watching this space. Make sure you come and follow me
0:44.9	on Instagram or on Facebook. I would love you to be part of my community as well and not just
0:50.2	listen to my podcast. If you do come and follow me over on Instagram, send me a message on
0:55.9	there saying, hey, I'm a new follower so that I can say hi back because it really,
1:00.3	really is great to connect with you guys in the community as well. It's something that I
1:04.6	really, really, really value. So this podcast is really a bit of a vulnerable share actually. And it really has come on the back
1:13.9	of an Instagram post I did probably a couple of months ago now. And in that post, I probably
1:19.5	had the most private messages from people than any other post I've ever done on Instagram.
1:27.2	So clearly this is something for us to be talking about,
1:30.8	but it is a really, really sensitive and vulnerable area.
1:34.5	And that area is about sex.
1:38.3	It's that intimacy avoidant part that will often show up
1:43.1	when we're in a narcissistic relationship. And from that
1:47.2	can breed certain phrases like, you're frigid, you're really, really cold. And that can leave you
1:55.1	feeling really, really worthless in a relationship. Now, I know when I was in my marriage with my ex-husband,
2:02.4	we all know, you know, sex, intimacy, it is a really, really important part of a relationship.
2:08.2	But I know for me, it's one of the very first parts of me that show up when I don't feel safe
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