Interview: Alicia Menendez On How Women Fall Into 'The Likeability Trap'

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🗓️ 19 November 2019

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Journalist Alicia Menendez has noticed a problem: in the workplace, and in many aspects of their lives, women are forced into becoming inauthentic versions of themselves in order to be likeable. Her new book, 'The Likeability Trap: How To Break Free And Succeed As You Are,' examines how to avoid these traps. Menendez and guest host Elise Hu talked about creating more fulfilling personal relationships and a better workplace and how likeability plays into politics.

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0:00.0	From NPR, it's been a minute.
0:07.0	Let me lease you, filling in for Sam Sanders while he takes a much deserved vacation.
0:11.8	I'm not sure where he's at, but we can just Instagram stock him and find out.
0:15.9	Today on the show, we're talking about something most of us can probably relate to.
0:20.0	Wanting to be liked.
0:22.0	And how that can create some problems.
0:25.0	This desire to be liked and the trouble it causes is something Alicia Menendez knows
0:29.6	a lot about.
0:31.2	Alicia was recently named an anchor at MSNBC.
0:34.5	She's a contributing editor at Bustle and she's the creator and host of the Latina
0:38.8	to Latina podcast.
0:41.0	On that show, Alicia talks with politicians and entertainers, even psychic mediums.
0:46.9	She's also the author of the new book, The Likeability Trap.
0:51.3	It's about all these experiences we encounter, but maybe don't realize.
0:55.3	Centered around needing and wanting to be liked in our personal and work lives.
1:00.4	Alicia talks a lot about how women and people of color fall into the trap, guilty.
1:05.5	But the feeling can be universal.
1:07.4	You might find yourself nodding along to the stories and experiences she talks about.
1:11.7	The instinct to people please and be liked in the workplace and in your relationships.
1:17.2	If not, maybe this can help you see the people in your life who do experience this.
1:23.4	I was in LA, Alicia joined me from New York.
1:26.8	Here we go.
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