Well, you want your children to succeed in life, but what about those moments when they seem distant or they want to quit?

What do you do then?

I'm John Fuller.

Welcome to the show with Dr. Danny Werta, who heads up Focus on the Family's Parenting Department.

We're going to hear now a conversation from Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

Jim spoke with Carrie Kempackas about why it's good to be a safe place for your children,

especially as they work through tough decisions.

Let me ask you that because it's really important that she's calling you.

That's what screams at me.

Yes.

And I think of the parents that maybe their kids have gone off to college and they're not calling.

Right.

So in that context, let me just ask that wildcard question.

How do you reconnect with a child that's in that, you know, an adult child, I guess, just launched.

They went off to some great school in the SEC, given you're from Birmingham.

Right. But they're not calling for that advice. How do you reconnect? It's certainly not to call and say, hey, I got some

advice for you. Do you want to listen? You don't do that. But how do you get that reconnection going maybe?

You know, I think the best thing is just knowing that we've got to have that

relationship in place. And I made a lot of mistakes with my kids. But one thing I really try to

emphasize, especially in their last years at home, was to try to build that relationship.

Because I want them to call me. I want them to want to come home. But for them to do that,

we do have to have that relationship in place. And I've got four children. So the story may be very different with each one of them.

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