Well, you pray for your kids to succeed in life.

I'm guessing you pray for your child in that way, but I wonder if you've been guilty of praying a little too aspirationally.

Like, there was a time when I was praying X, Y, Z in terms of vocation, and this and that.

And I realized, Danny, that I need to kind of back it off and give God room to color outside

of the lines, to paint a different picture that than I want for my child.

And he might want something else.

And so we started to really kind of lean into, let's just pray for godly character

and hearts that want to serve him.

And success, well, sure, I want my child to be successful.

But anyway, that's enough about me.

I'm John Fuller here with Dr. Danny Werthe, who heads up the focus on the family parenting department.

And Danny, these expectations, these unrealistic thoughts about what God's going to do, they can be kind of

limiting to me and my child, it seems. They can be, and they just kind of creep in. We all have

them. We all have expectations for our kids. I mean, it's not, you're not a bad person if you

have those. We need to be aware of those. Good.

They're aware of those.

Yeah, because I'm the judge of that.

But really, it's thinking through, we have expectations out of love.

Many times we want the very best for our kids.

We don't want to put the expectations as pressure.

Sometimes it's to satisfy some deeper needs that we have.

That's what we need to be aware of. And also,

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