Early bird tickets on sale now for my 2021 Mental Health Retreat: https://www.drleafconference.com Get a free Cleaning up your Mental Mess workbook when you sign up for my weekly newsletter at drleaf.com SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk to N.Y. Times bestselling author, podcast host and psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb about her new book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, the power of agency, how to let go of the narratives of the past, therapy as a process of self-understanding, and so much more! Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/identifying-breaking-free-from-the-jails-we-create-for-ourselves-the-one-question-most-people-struggle-with-in-life-with-lori-gottlieb Get Lori's book here: https://lorigottlieb.com/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone/ And follow he Ron social media: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS: -InsideTracker: Get up to 25% off their entire store at Insidetracker.com/DRLEAF -Blinkist: To get your free week on Blinkist AND 25% off your subscription see: https://www.blinkist.com/nc/partners/cleaning-up-the-mental-mess. -Athletic Greens (my go-to superfood powders and supplements!): To get one year free supply of vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your order see: athleticgreens.com/LEAF. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 4:40, 24:11 Why Lori wrote Maybe You Should Talk to Someone 7:45 Happiness is a byproduct, not an end goal 9:20 The difference between counseling & therapy 13:33 How therapy helps us discover the truths in ourselves—our knowing 14:30 How we change in relation to other people 18:35 The epidemic of loneliness 19:20 What is vulnerability? 23:00 The one question we all ask ourselves 26:15 The power of discovering our own agency 28:50 Why freedom can be scary 31:00 How we can become our own jailors 32:00 Why change is so hard 32:25 The different stages of change 38:00 How some of our relationships can help us back 50:30 Why we need to stop putting men & women in an emotional box Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.