I Was a Foolish Husband Before God Encountered Me and Healed my Marriage
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 6 October 2025
⏱️ 53 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve been praying for restoration, fasting, forgiving, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode will help you understand why. Many spouses want breakthrough in marriage but have never actually encountered God. Without an encounter, we stay bound to the same cycles—bitterness, offense, pride, self-righteousness, and unbelief.This conversation exposes what really keeps couples from transformation. It’s not always the spouse who walked away, filed for divorce, or stopped communicating. Sometimes the real barrier is unrepentant sin, tolerated compromise, or the refusal to let God confront the parts of us that still produce the fruit of the curse.Scripture shows that when bitterness takes root, it defiles everything it touches (Hebrews 12:14–15). When self-protection replaces surrender, we trade the fear of the Lord for the preservation of self. And when we reject rebuke, we also reject the wisdom that could have saved the marriage.This is not about another strategy or technique for communication—it’s about allowing the Holy Spirit to bring transformation through encounter. Because once you truly meet the living God, you don’t just change your perspective on marriage—you change your nature.If you’ve reached the end of your strength and still desire to see your covenant restored, it may be time to stop asking for relief and start crying out for encounter.
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| 0:00.0 | What is going on everybody? Derek Palazay here back with another episode of the Established |
| 0:04.6 | Family Podcast. I'm grateful that you guys are here with me today. I believe that wherever you're |
| 0:10.5 | listening to this or whenever you're listening to it, that is going to be edifying and comforting |
| 0:15.5 | to you. It's a Sunday at the time of this recording. I'm not sure when you guys will see it. |
| 0:20.4 | But today I want to speak to |
| 0:21.9 | you. It may be a little bit of a briefer message than typical, but I want to speak to you and ask |
| 0:28.5 | you a question about encountering God. So the premise or the theme of this session today is going to be |
| 0:36.6 | your marriage desperately needs to |
| 0:39.7 | encounter God. This is three different entities basically. You, your spouse, and the marriage as |
| 0:46.4 | one, the three-stranded cord, right? And that three-stranded cord being you, your spouse, and God |
| 0:52.2 | or the Holy Spirit. |
| 1:00.7 | So as we enter this session today, whether you have the time to watch the entire thing right now or not, I want to do an activation in the comment section. |
| 1:04.5 | And you can either do this before you listen to the session or after the session. |
| 1:08.8 | But have you encountered God or have you had an encounter |
| 1:13.9 | with God? You yourself specifically, you on your side of the spousal relationship and what did it |
| 1:20.3 | look like? If you haven't yet, do you desire it? And what do you believe is stopping you from encountering the one true God, |
| 1:30.1 | having a true encounter with him, one that marks you, one that truly transforms you, |
| 1:36.9 | that is immune to outcomes of a marriage dictating the condition of how you live out that |
| 1:43.1 | encounter or live from that encounter. |
| 1:45.5 | So I'm going to share with you three things that I believe every single marriage needs in order to |
| 1:51.0 | experience true restoration. |
| 1:53.7 | And as we're having a new pace to the podcast episodes and we're spending more time together |
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