I Need Them To Stop. Right Now

Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show

Slate Podcasts

Society & Culture, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.6 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 31 July 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah respond to a letter from a parent of young kids who’s worried that when it really matters—her children just won’t listen. How do you teach safety, boundaries, and urgency to kids under 5... without fear or yelling? The hosts talk about authority, instinct, and what actually works in high-stakes parenting moments. But first, we’ll circle up for a round of triumphs and fails: Zak’s week of solo parenting, Elizabeth’s trip to Mongolia, and Jamilah’s New York summer. Join us on Facebook and email us at [email protected] to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This episode may contain explicit language.
0:04.5	Welcome to Karen Feeding, the show where we raise the next generation together.
0:08.6	I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. I write the family travel blog Dutch Dutch goose.
0:11.9	I'm the mom to Henry who's 13, Oliver who's 11, and Teddy who's 8.
0:16.2	We live in Tokyo, Japan.
0:18.2	I'm Zach Rosen. I host another show. It's called The Best Advice Show.
0:21.9	And I am Dad Tenoa, who's 7, and Ami, who's 4. We live in Amsterdam. I'm Jamila Lemieux. I'm a writer, contributor to Slate's Care and Feeding Parenting Column, and Mom Tenaima, who's 12, and we live in Los Angeles. Today on the show, we're starting with a round of triumphs and fails,
0:20.6	and after that,
0:39.7	we'll answer a listener question about how to make sure your younger kids know how to tell
0:44.6	when you're being very, very serious.
0:47.4	But first, we're going to take a quick break.
0:53.2	Hey, that's Dan Cois from Slate.
0:55.5	I made a new word game, and I hope you'll come try it out.
0:59.2	It's called pairs, like the fruit, pears.
1:03.2	I wanted to make a word game that rewards not only random-ass, scrabble words,
1:08.1	but the fun words that we use in our real lives.
1:11.0	Tankini, dillweed, gloopy, twink.
1:15.3	We'll post a new game every day, and your job is to make as many words as you can,
1:19.7	to find great pair words, and of course, to beat your friends.
1:24.0	If that sounds like you're kind of fun, head to slate.com slash games to find pairs today.
1:30.5	That's slate.com slash games and look for pairs.
1:41.3	Hey, it's Mary Harris, host of Slate's Daily News podcast, What Next? This week, I'm talking with
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