I'm Not Moving to Budapest
The Secret Room | True Stories
Ben Hamm
4.5 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 3 March 2026
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
Danielle's Hungarian born husband hates suburban life and yearns to return to Budapest. They've set a date, but her secret is she's not moving. It's a complicated story of the competing forces of love and family. Here is her Reddit thread!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi Ben. My name is Danielle. My husband thinks that in six years we're moving to Budapest. |
| 0:10.6 | My secret is that we're not, at least I'm not, and I don't know how to work this out. |
| 0:17.1 | Today the secret room presents a not moving to Budapest. |
| 0:24.2 | My guest on today's episode arrives with an interesting problem. |
| 0:29.2 | Her husband unflinchingly wants to move home to Hungary, the country where he was born and raised, |
| 0:33.6 | and his reasons are sound, but many of the same reasons are keeping my guest Danielle from wanting to make the move with him. |
| 0:35.2 | And to complicate matters, she hasn't told him she's not |
| 0:37.6 | moving. It's a nuanced situation which we will unravel right now. Hi, Danielle and welcome to the |
| 0:46.3 | secret room. Hi, Ben. Thanks for having me. Well, you are welcome. It is great to have you here. It |
| 0:52.6 | sounds like you've got a heavy conversation |
| 0:54.5 | and decision weighing on your mind. That I do. Yes. But there is one thing you know for sure, |
| 1:02.7 | and that is that you do not want to move to Budapest, Hungary's capital city. Correct. It's beautiful |
| 1:10.0 | there. I've been. The Buddha district lies on one side of the Danube and pest lies on the other. Have you been there? Oh, yeah. Yeah, I've been there many times. It's very beautiful. But your husband wants to move to Budapest because that's home for him, right? He's Hungarian. Right. He's Hungarian. Okay. So let's roll back a little bit. And can you tell me when you met? |
| 1:31.4 | Yeah. I met David in 2019 from Facebook's dating site of all places. |
| 1:37.5 | Okay. Well, I think people meet online now. That's the thing. |
| 1:41.1 | Yeah. And I was a single mom. At that time, I was divorced for two years from my previous, my first husband. And I was a mom of, I'm a mom of two daughters. With that divorce, I didn't have any support financially. I really was just eager to sever ties with my husband at the time. |
| 2:03.2 | And so I signed the papers just willingly ready to just start over. |
| 2:09.7 | Maybe in hindsight it wasn't the smartest idea because there was definitely a lot of |
| 2:17.4 | struggle on my end. And that meant that my daughter struggled |
| 2:21.1 | with me at the time. And I just, I walked away from that marriage of eight years. And I had to |
| 2:30.1 | rebuild everything from the ground up for myself. Just completely build up a career and financial |
| 2:36.1 | stability on my own when I had, you know, I had been a stay-at-home mom for many years |
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