Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five PM Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Chase welcome to the program.

Thank you. I'm a first time listener, first time caller. Thank you. What can I do for you, Chase?

Well, I've been married for 15 years. Love my wife dearly. We have a great relationship and have always had a really good sexual relationship.

She's a bit of a Tomcat and we've always like I said had a great sexual relationship and we're both getting a little older in our 50s and she just she just not as into it as she used to be.

And the sex part, you know, I'm not so worried about the intercourse part, but what I really enjoy is how much I can satisfy her, you know, spending all the time on her body, you know, instead of mine.

And because she's not so much into it lately, I've been finding myself, you know, looking at all kinds of women, not just young women, but, you know, women my age and older women and everything in between and fantasizing about what I can, what I'd like to do to their bodies.

And I have an apple on this. I've never been unfaithful. But it, you know, it worries me to be honest with you. I couldn't tell you that, you know, if I had given the opportunity, I'd probably take it. I don't know if I would or not.

But if I was, okay, well, first of all, then you're not trying to please her. You're really pumping your own ego up. Because if you're fantasizing doing this to just about any woman, then it is not about pleasing anybody.

About your ego and being a master lover. I guess that's one way to put it. So, probably, you know, an interesting fact. It's not love making. It's ego making.

Number two, you need to tell her.

In my opinion, who you are. Okay. That makes a lot of sense. I guess. Yes. Yeah. That does make sense. That makes sense to you. Well, how does it make sense?

Well, because I was telling the gentleman before when I was speaking to him, the screen color or the call screener, I told him I said, I've always been really good at two things.

And the other one is my job. And my job seems to be more and more difficult right now. And even though I'm not failing in the eyes of my peers and my boxes, I feel like I'm failing.

So, that what you said as far as the ego that makes sense, you know, from failing at that, maybe working on on because it's not that I really want to. I just curious on whether or not I can.

What I could do that. Well, sir, you spend 15 years knowing you spend 15 years knowing you can. Well, whatever her changes are through menopause or what have you, she's doesn't need that as much.

I would hope she still needs you whether or not you're revving up her body every day. Well, sure, I believe you need to have sweet pleasant talks and tell her that, you know, but my sense of worth came from two things.

Sex and work. And that you're not as interested as not an attack on you, sweetie, but I'm wondering, am I that important to you without that?

That's the conversation you need to have. And I think you'll be very pleasantly surprised that there are so many aspects of you she needs and appreciates that you have to get your heart open to.

Yes, ma'am. That's the conversation to have. And I think you'll be very I'm hoping you'll be very happy at the end of that conversation.

Well, we I mean, we've always had a really good relationship as far as outside of the bedroom as well. You know, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about what you replace your ego in. You said there were two things.

Sex and work. You're concerned about the work. Now you concern that the relationship is only good because there's the sex. You have to check that out with her.

Yes, ma'am.

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