I'm an 'Assertive' Woman With a 'Reserved' Partner: How I Learned to Not Make Him Feel Dominated: Jocelyn Solo Episode 122
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Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 14 January 2021
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
I'm an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover.
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hey there, it's Jocelyn Freeman, part of Team Freeman's, and today we're going to be having a |
| 0:05.2 | solo chat. So as some of you know, we have a solo episode once a week where we get to talk about |
| 0:13.1 | whatever we want, and then we, of course, have our episodes that we do together, because I do |
| 0:17.6 | love podcasting with Aaron. But I wanted to follow up to our topic this week |
| 0:22.5 | about bringing up challenging conversations without making your partner defensive. |
| 0:26.7 | Because there's a nuance that is really common, and I'm sure many of you will relate to. |
| 0:32.6 | And that's why I titled today's episode. |
| 0:34.9 | I'm an assertive woman with a more reserved partner. How I learned not to make |
| 0:41.1 | him feel dominated. And this is really important not just because I relate to it, because I am the |
| 0:47.1 | assertive partner in the relationship, but I receive a lot of questions from women kind of saying, |
| 0:53.5 | how do I not make him shut down? |
| 0:56.7 | He says I try to like control him. |
| 0:59.5 | He says my personality is too outspoken. |
| 1:02.0 | I'm dominating the conversation. |
| 1:04.5 | And I just want to make sure it's clear that this isn't just a male-female thing. |
| 1:09.1 | This could be one of you being more assertive. It doesn't have to be |
| 1:12.9 | just the female. So place yourself, I may use different pronouns, but place yourself, whichever |
| 1:18.8 | gender you are, with how you relate to yourself and your partner. But all in all, one of you |
| 1:25.2 | happens to be more assertive and one of you happens to be more reserved okay |
| 1:28.9 | and this is super common as I said and for us was a big point of tension early on in our relationship |
| 1:36.5 | because I was more assertive I was more willing to share my thoughts my emotions and |
| 1:42.7 | Aaron being more reserved I would notice he'd |
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