I can't stop stalking the woman my husband had an affair with, and what I learned pains me.

Here's what happened.

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My sister Annie, female in her 30s, is obsessed with a girl.

Let's say Jane, a female in her 20s, that her husband cheated on her with in mid-2020.

I don't know why.

Jane's not the first or the last.

She was one of the decent ones, didn't realize he was married and broke it off when she found out,

and sent the proof of his cheating to his wife.

Somehow he spun this as she's trying to break us up, and my sister

fell for it, which is stupid because Jane already blocked them on everything. He's the one

that basically stalked her for months after. Anyway, Annie's been stalking Jane's socials.

Anytime Jane posts something about something bad, Annie calls me up to glow. Anytime

she posts about anything good that happens, Annie starts crying about how it's not fair. In the last

few months, Jane apparently got a high-paying new job, got engaged, and is pregnant. Annie had a full

meltdown over it. It's all she ever wants to talk about.

She'll call me at least twice a week with this and text me multiple times a day. She doesn't want

advice, doesn't want to leave him, just wants to vent endlessly. My other sister is also tired

of this, but my mom says we need to be gentle because it's hard for Annie.

I just want her to stop.

I tried sympathy, tough love, changing the subject, suggested counseling, and nothing works.

It's non-stop Jane did this and Jane said that.

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