What's up fam welcome back to whoa that's good Wednesday. Hope everybody is having a great week. It is about to get better because we have an awesome

guest today on the podcast. We have Heather Thompson Day. Let me just tell you a little bit about Heather. She has a podcast called viral Jesus.

She is an associate professor of communications at Andrews University. I mean that is pretty cool right there. She also runs an online community called I'm That Wife,

which her Instagram on that page is hilarious. I was reading through it today and I was like I am that wife. And she is the author of seven books, including her new book I have right here.

Here I will see you tomorrow. Heather is incredible. And I'll just tell you how she got on this podcast. If not for all the reason she should have already been on this podcast with her books and all the

things that she does, but I actually happen to be on her podcast whenever I was promoting who are you following and as we were having the conversation, I was actually so impacted by her.

And I said you got to be on my podcast. And so here we are circling back to that moment. Heather, thanks for saying yes to be on this podcast. And seriously you do so much good. And even just studying for this podcast was

a joy to get to dive into all the things that you're doing. So well done and welcome. Thank you, Sadie. Happy to be here. Yes, you're awesome. Well, we have to start the podcast like I start every podcast. And that is asking you what is the best piece of advice that you've ever been given.

Oh, so this is was deeply impactful to me. I was sitting in a class and my professor of religion said when it comes to marriage, if you get that one aspect of your life right.

Everything else can go wrong and none of it will matter. Well, when it comes to marriage, if you get that one aspect of your life wrong, everything else could go right and none of it will matter. And at that time I was engaged to be married.

And I ended up calling off my wedding. Wow, because I'm that quote. Oh, my deeply impactful in my life. Wow, that is so good. Like I can attest just being married. It's so true. When our marriage is thriving, like it really does not matter what else is going on in the world.

Like my job could be hard. This could be hard. Like when I marriage good, like it's great. But if our marriage is rockier, we're going through a hard time. It's like nothing else. Like I can't focus on anything else. Nothing else matters. Even if it's like success in this is like it just pills and comparison to the importance of that relationship being steady.

And so that is such good advice. And then the fact that you heard that and took the action to go into is just huge. So before we even get into anything else, we have to talk about this because this is like huge because so many people, you know, when you get engaged, they fear breaking something like that off. But it's so important that you get that thing right.

And so I actually had it in to ask you literally towards the end of this podcast, but I'll ask you now, like when you're in a relationship and you know it is not one that you need to say, and how do you have the courage to get out like you did because that's a really that's no small thing.

You know, this is a true story. I didn't so I called off that wedding two months before the wedding, but here's the truth of what happened is my dad was going out of town. And he said, I just I have a bad feeling. I think you really need to pray about this. And he had never said anything negative about my fiance that time before.

And they left. I was still living at my parents house. I was 22 and I went into my room and I prayed and I said, God, this is the person I have chosen. If this is not the person that you've chosen for me, will you please end it because I don't think I can.

And that was my prayer. And I'm not kidding within two minutes of saying that prayer, my phone rang. And it was my incredible fiance and he was calling to break up with me.

What? And we had not fought that day. I mean, we were kind of one of those couples that like break up to make up to break up.

It's so good to be in a relationship so wrong. We were kind of one of those couples, but we weren't even fighting that day. And so I just knew he's going to call me back and try to get back together.

But I knew that God was saying the same. It says, wow. And so I never went. Here's the truth to that same night. I'm crying in my bed to am.

And I say, God, can you just have mercy on me? I have all these bridesmaids that have dresses that they're not wearing.

And I'm crying at 2 a.m. in my phone rings again. And it's, I think it's my fiance calling to get back together with me. And I answer the phone and it's my husband, Seth Day, who wrote this book with me.

...