How You and Your Faith Community Got Hoodwinked by an Abuser [177]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

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🗓️ 28 June 2022

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

Do you wonder how he did it? How your abuser tricked you and blindfolded your church? How he just keeps coming out on top, despite all the evidence pointing to what a sick, twisted, evil person he is? Abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It always involves the community. In this case: the church. Wade Mullen staked his Ph.D. on the study of the hidden tactics of abuse, especially spiritual abuse within religious communities. What he found were patterns of behavior. The slow and steady set-up for abuse to become a system, a system to become a theology, and a theology to become god. Imagine with me: A relationship within a community where all the red flags (manipulation, lying, criticism) are called green flags and all the green flags (truth-telling, boundaries, self-respect) are called red flags. It’s the heist of the century. And it’s working all too well. Don’t miss out on this killer explanation: - Why abuse always involves theft - Why abuse always involves murder - Why emotional abuse is just as bad or worse than other types of abuse - The types of evil language abusers always use - The four types of nice things abusers do (and why “kindness” from an abuser is always a WARNING SIGN) - The reason laughter is a RED FLAG in an abusive relationship - 6 things women need when they’re coming out of emotional and spiritual abuse (and a great place to get ALL of them) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/177 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.4	Welcome to episode 177 of the Flying Free Podcast. In this particular episode I want to
0:28.5	read to you an article that I wrote several years ago and that I actually just recently not that long ago put it on YouTube. I recorded it me talking on YouTube. I'm starting to do that. I've got over a got over 100 articles. I've got all these
0:44.4	podcast episodes. I've got all this content and it really I've never I mean I have
0:49.3	done stuff on YouTube but if you go to my channel it's it's it's very spastic over there so I thought you
0:57.0	know I should start putting some of this content over there too for people who
0:59.9	like video I guess video is pretty popular now so let's jump in and do that as well, right?
1:06.2	Okay, so as I was thinking about this though I thought I really should put this
1:10.4	art this particular article on my podcast as well because it is so good and there's so much
1:16.4	helpful information here.
1:18.1	So how I wrote, well actually I'm just going to start reading it because I'll explain how I got this information and what I did with
1:23.7	it as I read the article because I introduce the article that way. So without any
1:28.7	further ado here we go. The article is called how Abusers Groom Their Victims and Everyone Else.
1:37.0	Have you ever wanted to pull your ever-loving hairs straight out of their follicles?
1:41.4	I get a little dramatic sometimes, right? I know that feeling. I get it every time I hear
1:46.3	another story of how a courageous victim finally gets up the nerve to expose her abuser and instead of getting the help and hope she dreams of, she gets put on the rack and grilled.
1:57.0	She tries to get away from the abuse only to find herself being abused by her larger community.
2:04.4	She tries to tell the truth, only to be told to shut her mouth and go back to living a lie.
2:10.4	This is because her abuser hasn't just been grooming his victim.
2:14.0	He's been grooming everyone else too.
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