Welcome to Breaking Down Patriarchy. I'm Amy McPhee All the Best. This month, in honor of Black History Month in the United States, we're staying right here on American soil and focusing on the experience of black Americans. And today we'll be talking about the black queer experience. We'll spend most of our time in the realm of personal experience, both from the memoir,

How We Fight for Our Lives by Saeed Jones and from our guest today, the incredible Stacey Harky.

Welcome, Stacy.

Howdy, howdy.

So great to have you here.

And I have to say really quick as a disclaimer, Stacey and I recorded this episode last month when I was

getting over being really sick. So my voice was really low. And we recorded the whole conversation.

It was awesome. And then I went to edit it and something happened with the microphone. And I lost

like a quarter of the episode. So we're re-recording today. I think I actually sound a little

sicker today. So if you notice a little change in our voices, that's why. So I just wanted to

give that disclaimer. Okay, for listeners who don't know who Stacey Harky is, I'll read a little

professional bio for you, Stacey,

and then you can introduce yourself personally in a second. Born in Dallas, Texas, Stacey Harky

considers himself to be a Southerner to the core. After graduating with a degree in public relations

from Brigham Young University, he was a writer and actor for the sketch comedy

TV show Studio C. He is currently a personal trainer, a corporate DEI consultant, and owns a media

company called JK Studios. Stacey is a firm believer in the power of an embarrassing moment,

a burnt meal, and an extremely difficult challenge. That's, Stacey. So I'd love it if you could just

introduce us to you a little bit more, kind of where you're from and some of the things that make

you you. Of course. So I am from Dallas, Texas. Actually grew up from a place not too far from where

Saeed grew up, which I absolutely loved. And we'll jump

into that a little bit later. But I am just like a big old extroverted nerd. I just want to

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