How We Each Played a Role in Overcoming AVOIDANT & ANXIOUS Tendencies to Create a Secure Marriage: Episode 370
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 19 November 2024
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
Yes we have a secure relationship and marriage now. But we certainly had to overcome our initial anxious and avoidant tendencies early on. Even now, those tendencies can still show up; we have just done the work to handle situations, emotions, and conflicts in healthy and secure ways to stay on the same team.
In this episode you will hear us tell our relationship story as the background for how you can overcome any of your own insecure attachment patterns. You will hear the quick reminder of:
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the 4 attachment styles,
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the 5 core pillars within each style,
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and then the things we did in our own life to be in the secure place we are now, and no matter what life events happen to us.
In telling our story you will take away many great steps you can take to further cement yourselves a secure foundation to add to your connection, closeness, and trust in your marriage.
Relationship Resources mentioned in the episode:
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Get The Family Meeting Guide - either on its own here, or as a bonus for starting the Prioritize Us Challenge that starts Dec 1st.
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If you listened all the way to the end, take the action we mentioned while using the word "special". Be sure you listen all the way through for the special offer of the 3 guides together!
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring |
| 0:04.8 | relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on |
| 0:09.7 | the same team no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. |
| 0:13.9 | And I'm Jocelyn Furman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:16.6 | And welcome to this episode about how we each played a role in overcoming our avoidant and anxious tendencies. |
| 0:24.5 | You'll find out who is who. |
| 0:25.8 | And how that led us to create a secure marriage. |
| 0:29.4 | So the goal throughout this episode, and we are going to share some of our story because you don't always get to hear that. |
| 0:36.5 | And you just see us as we are now. You don't |
| 0:39.4 | always see or remember who we were 11 and a half plus years ago when we met. And so it's easy |
| 0:48.8 | potentially to compare yourselves even to where we are now rather than how long we have been growing and evolving together. |
| 0:57.7 | And I guess it's there for me to say that we do this as a society all the time. |
| 1:01.5 | But we're not saying that we're some pillar. |
| 1:03.9 | We're just saying you're listening to this podcast about relationship topics. |
| 1:07.5 | We're the experts on it. |
| 1:09.0 | We've been doing it for so long. |
| 1:10.4 | We've given so much attention |
| 1:11.6 | and focus and the amount of sessions that we've done. But this is the case with anyone. It's |
| 1:17.4 | this social media world where we really only see people the way they are now. There's an |
| 1:24.5 | argument about whether you see the true self or not. |
| 1:27.6 | That's not what we're here to talk about. |
| 1:29.1 | But we are here to talk about that we don't always acknowledge the journey that people |
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