How To Use The Subtle Art Of NOT GIVING A F*CK To Get Ahead of 99% Of People | Mark Manson
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🗓️ 4 April 2023
⏱️ 125 minutes
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Summary
Why are most people struggling to get ahead? They’re struggling to get ahead in their career, their business, their relationships, and even in the battle they have every day with themselves.
If you’re like most, you turn to the most popular books, courses, and communities that seem promising. You get pumped and feel like a freaking rockstar in the middle of it all, but the second you’re back alone with yourself nothing f*cking changes!
That is what we call spiritual entertainment. The problem isn’t getting the information you need or access to better resources, the problem is that you’re not effectively implementing the ideas you hear because your behavior never changes.
What do you do when self-help isn’t changing a damn thing in your life? Mark Manson, bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and the man that helped write Will Smith’s memoir, Will has gone from struggling blogger to thought leader in self-help.
This episode is exactly what you need to stop being your own victim of self-help failures. Mark’s 3 universal principles will help you break the spiritual entertainment cycle, stop feeling bad about where you are and start embracing the kind of action and validation that will actually get results.
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| 0:00.0 | What up, guys. I'm super excited to be joined by the former blogger turned three-time number one New York Times bestselling author Mark Manson. Mark made the leap from struggling blogger giving men relationship advice to becoming a thought leader in the self-help space with a twist by sharing the subtle art of not giving a fuck with millions of people around the world. |
| 0:22.3 | Mark joins me in this episode to wrestle with the idea of self-help and why the books, |
| 0:26.5 | the videos, and the conferences aren't actually changing many people's lives. |
| 0:30.3 | We talk about the problem people struggle with the most implementation. |
| 0:34.5 | It's easy to get fired up, but it's super hard to stay fired up for two days, |
| 0:38.8 | two weeks, or even two months, let alone two years, two decades. Mark shares three universal |
| 0:44.1 | principles that will help you avoid spiritual entertainment and actually start changing your life. |
| 0:49.6 | And we reveal what you should be doing to make sure the five ideas and people you spend the most time |
| 0:55.1 | with are actually getting you the results you need. If you got one nugget of wisdom, you can |
| 1:00.0 | implement from this episode, please, my friends, leave a review. It's the best way to support the |
| 1:04.6 | podcast so we can help other people just like you reach their full potential and become |
| 1:08.9 | legendary. I'm Tom Bill You you and welcome to Impact Theory. |
| 1:13.7 | You have your finger on something that I am haunted by, which is that people are lost, they're |
| 1:20.6 | scared in life, they've got a negative voice running on repeat. When they get into self-help, |
| 1:25.3 | they make no lasting changes whatsoever what's the answer to that |
| 1:30.9 | and how does the subtle art of not giving a fuck play into all this starting with the easy |
| 1:36.0 | questions i see yeah i hope not well i you know a question that i've been i've been in this industry |
| 1:43.5 | for 15 years now, and I've |
| 1:46.5 | written thousands of pages worth of content. I've recorded tons of videos, done hundreds and |
| 1:52.0 | hundreds of interviews like this. So most of my careers, I've existed in the theory. And I've done, |
| 1:58.8 | I did a little bit of coaching early in my career, but I've kind of |
| 2:03.3 | hit this point where, you know, you can only talk about anxiety so many times before you just |
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