How to unlock your flirting superpowers | Francesca Hogi
TED Talks Daily
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4.1 • 11.9K Ratings
🗓️ 14 November 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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What's the right way to flirt? According to love coach Francesca Hogi, it doesn't have to be shallow or creepy — it can be a genuine chance for human connection. In this smart, playful talk, she gives a much-needed rethink on flirting that will help you feel confident, spark chemistry and maybe even find love.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day. |
| 0:12.2 | I'm your host, Elise Hugh. Do you know how to flirt? In this talk, love coach Francesca Hogan invites us to rethink everything we know about flirting. |
| 0:22.5 | To her, it's not a shallow game or a manipulative tactic, but instead a genuine act of human connection. |
| 0:30.4 | Drawing on her decade of experience, helping people find love, she reframes flirting as a superpower you can cultivate. |
| 0:41.4 | How would you feel if I called you a flirt? |
| 0:47.5 | Flattered, defensive, insulted, perhaps? |
| 0:53.8 | Flirting doesn't have the best reputation. |
| 0:57.0 | Case in point is the outdated dictionary definition of flirting, |
| 1:01.0 | which is to behave as though attracted or trying to attract someone, |
| 1:06.0 | but for amusement rather than with serious intent. |
| 1:10.0 | Basically, to waste someone's time and toy with their emotions. |
| 1:13.6 | Well, today, I hope to change your mind about flirting, |
| 1:17.6 | starting with a new definition. |
| 1:20.6 | Words and actions intended to make another person feel seen, special, and acknowledged. |
| 1:26.6 | All three. Thank you. to make another person feel seen, special and acknowledged. |
| 1:27.6 | All three. |
| 1:28.5 | Thank you. |
| 1:32.3 | For the last 12-plus years, |
| 1:34.2 | I've been helping people to fall in love and create lasting relationships. |
| 1:39.2 | First, as a matchmaker, |
| 1:40.7 | and for the last decade, I've been coaching people to be their own matchmakers. |
| 1:45.0 | As a love professional, I can assure you that many dating problems can be solved with flirting. |
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