Hey listeners, Holly Randle here. We're switching things up a little bit and bringing you a preview of a podcast that I think you are absolutely going to love.

It's a podcast from the Pleasure Podcast Network called Shameless Sex.

The Shameless Sex podcast, hosted by Amy and April, is a real talk informative podcast with a playful twist for just about anyone who wants to learn about sex and relationships.

Shameless Sex releases playful yet informative episodes every Tuesday featuring knowledgeable doctors, authors, therapists, and educators, and is available anywhere you listen to podcasts, as well as on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok. Find out more at Shamelesssex.com.

And with that, here's a clip from one of Shameless's top episodes, number 295, how to talk dirty with Sexpert Lola Cat.

The thing that came to mind for me is, you know, as someone who engages in dirty talk, gets really turned on by it, prefers partners that do a lot more than than me.

And you could call me a dirty talk pillow princess, but I don't give a fuck. I'm a dirty talk pillow queen.

And so, you know, I prefer my partners to say a lot and I will just give make a lot of sounds that are authentic. So not, there's the whole, there's the whole movement about like not making sounds that are not true to your actual arousal because because it's confusing everyone.

It's confusing your partners and it's confusing your body and sometimes you get programmed by that from porn and all these things. So actually to get really clear and like what is my body really feeling and how do I release the sounds of the words.

But what I found for myself is my partner can say like a whole bunch of sometimes actually I've actually told my partner to shut the fuck up once I was like, you're talking too much right now.

You know, he's just like, I go, yeah, I'm not even a girl. I'm going to do all these bad things to you. I'm going to stick in this whole and then this whole and make you do this thing and this thing.

And I'm just like, and I'm trying to like focus on my genitals focusing on materials. And then I'll be like, can you stop for a minute?

Do we do the same show the fuck up? You're like, no, no, I was, but I was like, just a little less. And he's like, okay, but we have this arrangement where or understanding that our communication and we teach communication at shame is so often where it's not just like stop.

You know, it's very because a lot of people can't handle that by my partner and I can't where one of us can just pick yes, no, slow down, stop more of this less of that without having to do what we call the sandwich, you know, like making all fancy and things.

But what I found too is I also can just say, you know, so we're having a sex session. He's doing like 80% of the dirty talk. And it doesn't mean he's talking the whole time, by the way. I'm just saying like any of the words or things.

The words beyond moaning that are coming out would be him. All I have to say is like a couple simple sentences. Like, you know, you want to get it in that pussy. So bad. Don't you know, something like that. And like, I did my dirty talk for the day.

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

But I know him and I know that how that works for him. And so I just wanted to like, I kind of highlight that that it mean it can be so many different things for so many different people.

And you're speaking the love languages. And it might probably really matters on who we're in relationship with and what really speaks to us.

So with all of that Amy talking about any stories.

I know you have a book there that you want to read a little chapter.

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