All right, so here's the main thesis for this episode is that every every healthy married couple should not only prioritize sex, but they should also prioritize communicating on the topic of sex.

Does that make sense?

Yes.

So that's the whole premise of this episode. And so this theme for this month, as we talked about last week, if you missed an episode, go back, check it out.

We do a kind of a primer on communication in general, what it is, the function that serves and how we are to approach it as Christians.

But this is part of our communication series this month. And so today we thought, let's merge these topics of sex and communication because, as Selena, you pointed out one of our conversations, sex itself is a form of communication.

I'm sorry, I've just got let's talk about sex. Maybe just running through my head. How could you not?

Because we are the professional marriage folk and we're not supposed to be, we're not supposed to succumb to those, to be street youths.

Yeah, whatever. Yeah, so we're talking about talking about sex and how sex in itself is communication. But namely, we want to bring to you six kind of habits or we used that word last week.

Six conversational approaches around your sex life as a couple. Of course, we will undergird that with a biblical view of sex. It's going to be a talk to someone outside.

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I think it's easy to assume that we can just be good at sex and be good at talking about sex, right? And if we're not, then well, I guess we'll just get better somehow, right?

I think we can just sort of end there in our mind and I believe that there's a higher way. There's a better way that we as Christians, a married couple, can talk about sex because the motivation is different. The higher orientation is different.

I want to ask you though, honestly, I'm not just trying to be devil's advocate here, but do you think it's easy to assume that we don't need to talk about it? Do you think that I mean I'm picturing couples because I've never thought like we're just awesome at it.

We need to figure out. I don't know. Maybe it's not something that maybe crosses couples that their rating because there's this implicit belief that you should just follow your passions where your passions go.

And passions will drive your sexual experience. That's an assumption. Yeah, I think that's easy. It's an easy assumption. So I was trying to say, I wish you would just understand.

That's why I'm all the time talking about this. So yeah, and I could see couples so they feel like this taboo in a sense, right? If they I'm picturing the couple who is got engaged, got married, they they had a great, you know, first couple of years, although it might have been rocking in some spots because the first years of marriage tend to be a little bit of a learning curve.

And then they kind of hit cruising altitude a little bit and they they they feel like their sexual experience kind of could use a little bit of growth.

Could use a little bit of inspiration inspiration. There you go, inspiration, but they don't know how to talk about it because they feel like well, it's just supposed to be this spontaneous kind of movie like experience where

there's expectations about everything about our expectations on talking about it, our expectations of how it should be and our expectations of how our spouse should respond to how we're talking about it, right? We have all these like notions and

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