The guy you've placed on a pedestal is someone else's biggest ick and nightmare.

What if I told you there was a person out there in the world that saw your ex or the guy you're chasing, the guy you're pining after, the guy you're trying to date or the person you're trying to date, okay?

This could go both ways, I know, I know.

But what if I told you?

There was someone out there that literally got the ick whenever they looked at that person and they were like nah I'm good. They're not meeting my standards. They're not the right person for me.

This episode is for you if you are

chasing down someone who does not want to be with you you really have to give

yourself a reality check and a wake-up call because your life isn't built to be chasing anyone down.

Your life isn't meant to run after a man who can't even pick up his clothes off the floor,

who doesn't know how to do laundry, who doesn't know how to cook or clean up after himself or make himself a meal.

Okay, my friend was telling me about a guy she was seeing, that she would literally

go to his apartment and have to do his laundry and pick up his clothes from his floor and

she felt like she was living in a frat house and I was like yeah we're not doing that

this year we're not picking up after people we're not doing that this year. We're not picking up after people.

We're not cleaning up after people's messes.

You're a grown man.

You could handle your ship by yourself.

You should be able to take care of your household.

Especially if you're not in a serious relationship, by no means

should you be looking after someone, chasing after someone, taking care of someone like a

fucking baby, okay? You are not someone's mother, you're not their

parent, you're not their caretaker. You have to focus on yourself and take care of

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