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Most people can never, even for a moment, disentangle themselves from the restraints imposed by those around them, nor can they disregard their approval.

From the moment they begin to understand their parents' smiles and frowns they have needed the moment-to-moment approval of everyone, even strangers.

These people measure their entire worth by what others think of them.

Most of us care too much about what other people think of us.

We value social approval too highly, and we possess an irrational fear of disapproval, criticism

and rejection.

Instead of forging a path through life that aligns with our talents, strengths and desires,

we conform to the wants and expectations of others.

Some of us even let our dreams die because we fear how we will be judged if we pursue them.

In this video, we are going to explore how we can diminish an excessive need for social

approval and overcome the life-inhibiting fear of social disapproval.

I have never wished to satisfy the crowd.

For what I know, they do not approve.

And what they approve, I do not know, stated the ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus.

A useful first step to cultivating a healthier attitude to the opinions of others

is to reflect on the character

of the individuals whose approval we seek. Are such individuals deserving of our respect and admiration?

Are they flourishing or stagnating? Do they possess courageous, independent, and inquisitive minds

capable of seeking the truth and forming and voicing

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