How to Set Better Goals With This One Shift in Thinking

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 26 January 2021

⏱️ 8 minutes

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You can learn to set better goals. Most people don't realize it but they are accidentally setting negative goals and this just isn't how your brain works. If you want to set better goals, then you need to learn how to set positive goals. Setting positive goals is about focusing on the smallest possible steps to accomplishing what you DO want in your life instead of focusing on what you DON'T want in your life. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor BetterHelp connects you to a licensed professional for $65/week. Try it now for 10% off https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanuts... Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=01262021 Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanut... Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapynutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/bes... Therapy in a Nutshell, and the information provided by Emma McAdam, is solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. If you are in crisis please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC ---- Music licensed from www.Bensound.com or Artlist.io Images from Freepik.com (premium license), Pixabay, or Wikimedia commons

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0:00.0	Hello everyone and welcome to therapy in a nutshell. I'm Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family
0:06.7	therapist, and this is the podcast where I condense mental health skills into bite-sized
0:12.4	nuggets of health. I used to play soccer a lot. I'm pretty sure I had a shirt that said soccer is life.
0:28.4	I was a midfielder and I loved scoring goals. And whether you've played soccer or not,
0:33.7	try to picture this, right? Imagine you're a player, you've got the ball, obviously you want to score.
0:39.0	Now, you're dribbling at full speed down the field toward the goal. You pull a sweet spin move around
0:44.0	that last defender, leaving nothing between you and the goalie. Now, a soccer goal is pretty big,
0:50.3	so there's a lot of open space to get the ball into that net. But as you're flying full speed ahead,
0:56.5	what would happen if you started to think, don't kick it at the goalie, don't kick it at the goalie.
1:01.3	With that as your focus, where do you think the ball is going to go? In most cases, you'd kick the
1:07.3	ball right at the goalie because that is what you're focused on. If instead of the
1:12.1	goal you aim for the bottom left corner of the goal, but you're thinking, don't hit the post, don't
1:18.1	hit the post, you're probably going to hit the post. Now, however, if you focus on the open space between
1:23.2	the post and the goalie, if you just stare intently at that spot that you want to hit,
1:29.3	you're going to be much more likely that the ball will end up in the back of the net,
1:33.8	and that will feel amazing. So with this story in mind, I want you to understand that what you focus
1:40.5	on is essential in the process of setting and achieving better goals.
1:46.0	And I know what you're thinking, right? Oh, I know how to set goals. I know how to make goals and write them down and plan them.
1:52.0	And that's great, but most people get this one really essential part wrong. They set negative goals instead of positive goals. So let's talk
2:03.3	about how your brain works, how to understand that to make and achieve better goals. Okay, so let's look
2:10.3	at two fairly standard goals that most people try at some time in their life. Weight loss and
2:16.5	being more social. Now these are pretty
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