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Awesome Marriage Podcast

How To NOT Fight With Your Spouse About Money with Julie Baumgardner | Ep. 589

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Christianity, Society & Culture, Relationships, Religion & Spirituality

4.9 • 813 Ratings

🗓️ 12 December 2023

⏱️ 66 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

No one loves talking finances, but we do think you'll love today's conversation with Julie Baumgardner! Julie shares how to get curious about what money means to your spouse, how two spouses' separate financial backgrounds and "money stories" can stop being a source of tension, and start becoming a shared value. 

Listen to this episode if you're ready to get on the same page with your spouse about finances this season - without fighting about them! 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  •  Questions to start a productive conversation about finances with your spouse

  • How to uncover the hidden money lessons you learned growing up, then to get on the same page with your spouse. 

  • What recent research says about the connection of money and marital happiness 

  • How to learn more about your spouse's perspective about money 

  • Ways to work together toward shared values around money in your marriage

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

QUOTES:

  • "You have different perspectives about money. You don't necessarily talk about what it means to you, how you think about it, therefore you argue about it." - Julie Baumgardner  

  • "You can have conversations about money without having to be methodical about every single penny." - Julie Baumgardner 

  • "If you can't figure out how to live within your means with a little, it will be very complicated to figure out how to live within your means with a lot." - Julie Baumgardner 

  • "It isn't 'You're right, I'm wrong,' you're being curious. And in being curious, you're learning." - Julie Baumgardner 

  • "If you can tell that money is creating stress, what is it about money that's stressful?" - Julie Baumgardner 

  • "Keep your eyes wide open for where God is calling you to join Him in his work. Be aware, and where you see a need, be a Kingdom builder. " - Julie Baumgardner 

 

QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

  • What matters most to the two of you when it comes to money? It's never too late to define your core values around money in your marriage. 

  • What is it about money that's stressful?  If it's "what ifs," then name the what-ifs and talk through them. 

 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.

0:09.9

I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few.

0:13.4

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly.

0:17.0

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years.

0:21.8

His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship.

0:29.5

Well, Julie, welcome to the awesome marriage podcast.

0:32.2

Thank you so much for saying yes.

0:33.6

I'm excited that you are here and excited to spend some time with you today.

0:38.5

I'm honored to be here.

0:43.8

I've been looking forward to it. Well, me too. So let's kind of get into some of this stuff on money because I know as a counselor, you know that money is always one of the top topics

0:49.4

a couple's fight over. And it's just a big reason for divorce. I just can't resolve that. So it seems though,

0:56.9

I think that sometimes it doesn't really matter. I think sometimes we think if we have all this

1:00.8

money, we're not going to have money problems. But that's not really true, is it? There's stress,

1:04.5

whether you have money or whether you don't have money. Why is that? I think based on spending a lot of time with couples that we enter into marriage.

1:16.5

And oftentimes we don't have a conversation about what money means to me and how I think about money.

1:25.9

I can even remember back to when my husband and I got married.

1:29.3

We've been married 34 years. And when we were walking down the aisle, I came to marriage with a lot

1:35.9

of debt because I put myself through college. So I had a lot of student loans. And my husband is a

1:42.0

saver. Then we get married. And I I realize I'm the one paying all the bills.

1:47.3

And one day I just said to him, do you think I'm spending all of our money?

1:51.0

Because I'm the one who pays all the bills.

1:53.7

I buy the birthday presents.

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