Hi guys, I'm Gwyneth Peltro. Welcome to the Goop Podcast.

Every Thursday, Goop editors will be sitting down with provocative thinkers, industry disruptors

and culture changers. I'll take turns interviewing barrier breaking guests as we talk about

shifting old paradigms and starting new conversations.

Today's guest, psychiatrist Dr. Robin Berman, is an associate professor of psychiatry

at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA, and also the author of Permission to Parent,

how to raise your child with love and limits, which we consider to be something of a parenting

Bible here at Goop.

When Dr. Berman was first establishing her own practice, she intended to work solely with

kids until she realized that she couldn't do much for kids without reparenting the grown-ups.

So if you can't forgive yourself and you can't forgive your parents, then you are constantly

a victim. You have this great privilege and honor to move past it. You have this way of

saying I deserve in this lifetime to feel lovable.

Dr. Berman sat down with our chief content officer, Elise Lunin, to talk about the ways

our parents affect us, both how we can grieve what we might not have received when we were

young, and also how to move on from imperfect childhoods.

Imagine a world if we lived in a place where everybody looked at everyone as their highest

good, without judgment, without trash talking, without digging deep into their own stance,

and their own opinion and being in judgment, and both this person isn't that enough for

that.

So the love goggles need to come back, focusing on character and kindness, all of those

internal structures are a formula for happiness.

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