How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To! with Mike Pesca

Peach Fish Projects

Education, How To

4.3 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 19 October 2021

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Grace and Nikki both need more friends. Grace is an ICU nurse whose best friends have moved away. Nikki is an electrical engineer who worked remotely for the last year and is now moving to a new city. Making friends as an adult is hard, but not impossible. You just have to do things differently than when you were in 6th grade. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Elizabeth Newcamp, co-host of Slate's Mom and Dad are Fighting and the author of Dutch, Dutch, Goose, a parenting and travel blog. Elizabeth's husband is in the military so they're constantly moving to new places. She's figured out a playbook for transforming casual acquaintances into close friends, even if you're an introvert.

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0:54.4	Thanks, and now onto the show. I just think, like, compliments are the best thing, and
1:01.0	they're such a good opener. Like, if I'm standing in line or something, I will sometimes
1:05.4	like look around and think, is there someone standing near me I can compliment? Like, I guess
1:08.8	because I haven't had enough interaction, you know, I'm like, must drum up interaction.
1:14.3	But it like always ends up being a very pleasant experience, right? Welcome to How-To,
1:22.1	I'm Amanda Ripley. So let's talk about friends for a second. My best friend, Catherine,
1:28.3	I met her when I was 12. She's awesome. I don't know what I would do without her. My
1:34.1	other closest friends in life are mostly people I met freshman year of college when I was
1:39.1	18. Since then, I've met a lot of amazing people who I love hanging out with, but most
1:45.5	of those friendships only run so deep, which is kind of weird when you think about it.
1:50.7	I mean, why is it so hard to make new close friends as an adult? This is the time of
1:55.2	life when we kind of know who we are. We're more comfortable in our own skin, hopefully.
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