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How To! | Let Go of ADHD Shame

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Society & Culture, News, Business

3.91.1K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Jessi navigates life with ADHD using a complex web of coping strategies. She used to strive for absolute perfection, but feels overwhelming guilt when she forgets something or loses focus at work or at home. On this episode, How To! co-host Carvell Wallace introduces Jessi to Dr. Sarah Wheeler, an educational psychologist who specializes in ADHD. Dr. Wheeler shares her own experience with ADHD and helps Jessi chart a sustainable path forward to self-acceptance, minus the anxiety and shame.

Dr. Wheeler's Resources and Recommendations

- Sarah's ADHD story

- Sarah's Substack and podcast

- More about Sarah and her work

- Joan Wilder's site Help for Women with ADHD

- Salif Muhamane's Ted Talk, "ADHD Sucks, But Not Really"

- Kate Weber's Women & ADHD podcast

- You've Always Been This Way: "Hello, I'm New Here," by McSweeney's columnist Taylor Harris

Check out: How To Navigate Adult Autism and our discussion of ADHD and organizing in How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

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0:00.0

Why are businesses like HelloVet choosing Apple products and services?

0:04.8

So we started the business two years ago.

0:07.2

We had a few people who were used to PCs and this was their first foray into Macs.

0:12.5

But it's been super smooth getting everyone onto those devices and everyone seems really, really happy.

0:18.0

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0:23.6

HelloVet.

0:25.9

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0:27.8

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0:31.0

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0:35.9

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0:39.4

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0:43.8

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0:50.2

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0:56.7

I recently heard Amy Poller say that either you're annoying or boring. You have to pick one.

1:03.0

And I fully think I fall into the annoying camp rather than the boring.

1:10.4

Welcome to how to where we welcome you no matter which camp you fall into.

1:14.9

You know, each week on the show, we talk with the listener about something they're struggling to navigate,

1:19.3

and we bring in an expert with personal experience to give them guidance.

1:23.6

I'm Carveau Wallace.

1:25.4

And Amy Poehler aside, if we were to turn back the clock to a young Jesse 30 years ago,

1:30.7

I don't think we'd find a kid who was annoying, excited, maybe, excellent student, absolutely.

1:36.4

Enthusiastic, for sure.

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