This is the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.

Hey, hey, happy Sunday, party people.

Today, we are bringing you a brand new guided meditation from my great friend, Jeff Warren, who's both hilarious and very wise.

This meditation is all about how not to be so susceptible to emotional contagion, how to be the calmest person in the room during a

shitstorm. In other words, it's about boundaries. You can get more meditations from Jeff and my

other meditation teacher friends if you sign up at Dan Harris.com. Subscribers also get access to

our weekly live meditation and Q&A sessions. We do those every Tuesday at four.

Enough shilling for me after the break, a meditation with Jeffrey Warren.

Hey, I'm Jeff. So I'm a grown-ass adult who moves through the world with great confidence

and self-sufficiency,

and the very second my tiny six-year-old son squeaks with unhappiness,

I fall all over myself trying to make him happy.

So yeah, I'm a people-pleaser, especially with him.

The antidote to people-pleasing is boundaries.

It's about pausing, coming back into our own bodies, and learning to handle our discomfort.

Then from this more autonomous place, we can hopefully make a more appropriate response.

So this meditation can help even if you're not a people pleaser because my friend,

you are still a social animal surrounded by annoying humans. Let's go. Okay, so eyes open or closed, whatever's comfortable for you. And a few slow, deliberate breaths. Stretch stretching up on the inhale and settling down on the exhale and just breathing here being a body letting everything settle for a few beats

if you like to help with this you can rest your attention on the out breath or some other soothing

sound or sensation Mind wanders. Come on back.

Patient, not in a rush. Okay, so we're interested in this issue of boundaries, how many of us make other people's

business our own and then lose ourselves in the process. So how does this happen for you?

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