Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

Initially, when I was really young, the father wound was quite deep.

So I always carried this feeling of not being good enough.

So I created a lot of separateness between me and other people.

You know, we grew up very poor, had no money. I'm a very small. I'm always the smallest

person in every room. And I didn't have a father. There was so many things that were different about me.

And so I didn't feel like I fit in. And so I felt quite insecure about whether or not I belonged to anywhere.

And over time, that turned into the defensive survivor mask, that ultra-independent mask,

you know, that many of us end up putting on.

And my learning happened through really painful, unsafe relationships. Really? Yeah, well, I was really

looking for someone to affirm me from a very young age, and so all of my relationships up until my

early 20s were very abusive, were really unsafe. And there's one particular relationship that

I was lucky to have survived. But it was in that

relationship where I actually remember looking in the mirror and I didn't recognize myself. And all of a

sudden I had this opening and I just saw myself on stage speaking to women about abuse and healing

and recovering. And this was like almost 10 years before I ever began Rising Woman or started, anything like that.

But I had this feeling, and I remember telling the guy who was, you know, he was my abuser.

And I said, I'm actually going to be speaking on stage one day about these experiences.

And I'm going to be helping women.

Why do you think people attract someone that can be abusive? one day about these experiences and I'm going to be helping women.

Why do you think people attract someone that can be abusive and then stay in that type of relationship once they've been abused? Yeah. Where does that wound come from?

It's almost harder to leave once there's been abuse because when you look at the brain,

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