How to Drop Happily Ever After and Do Relationships Better! – John Kim, LMFT : 1077
The Human Upgrade: Biohacking for Longevity & Performance
Dave Asprey
4.6 • 7.4K Ratings
🗓️ 8 August 2023
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
IN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE you’ll learn how to recognize your own sh*t and be a better partner in relationships.
Want a sustainable partnership? Communicate and apologize; fight without fighting; identify codependent behavior (your own); and manage jealousy (also your own).
This conversation gets into how you can let go of unrealistic ideals of how you think love and relationships should be and live fully in the present. You’ll also get tips on how to be emotionally responsible to people you love every day.
Guest John Kim, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a life coach, cracks his life into two big pieces… split on either side of what he calls “the great divide” of his own divorce several years ago. He did the whole “get a tattoo and a Harley” thing to find his way.
He also combined what he learned in therapy school with life coaching and technology to be mobile and create online communities. He became known as an unconventional therapist, seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, or in a CrossFit box. He’s built a devoted following of fans who love the frank and authentic insights that he—as “The Angry Therapist”—freely shares on social media. TikTok’s his jam, with over 450K people tuning in for his “shot glass” bits of life wisdom.
In his book, written with his romantic partner and fellow therapist Vanessa Bennett, John takes a different (honest, humorous, raw) approach by dissecting his own relationship dynamic to bring clarity to yours. Each part of “IT’S NOT ME, IT’S YOU: Break the Blame Cycle, Relationship Better” gives you questions to ask yourself and practices to do. It’s a book that pushes you into doing and putting your newfound knowledge to IRL use.
Here’s a sneak peek at a few of the Love Lessons (In a Shot Glass) you’ll find in “It’s Not Me, It’s You.”
- Love is not a battlefield. Your head is.
- If someone is unsure about you, it’s never worth the investment.
- Hold love, don’t grab it.
- Don’t stop believing (be Journey).
- Love is what teaches us how to live.
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| 0:00.0 | If you've been listening to the human upgrade for very long, you've heard about the |
| 0:04.0 | science-backed benefits of sonnas, like sweating out heavy metals and other toxins, and |
| 0:09.7 | even a euphoric feeling you get from endorphins releasing from the heat. |
| 0:14.6 | What if you could get those benefits anywhere without having a full sauna? |
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| 0:21.6 | It uses infrared light that heats you instead of the air around you. |
| 0:25.8 | That means you get the same benefits at a lower heat. |
| 0:28.9 | It also mimics the effects of intense exercise, even burning up to 600 calories per session |
| 0:35.2 | while you just relax. |
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| 0:50.2 | I like to use it when I'm traveling and don't have access to a full-size sauna. |
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| 1:10.9 | You've probably heard me talk about how important it is to get good protein every day, and most |
| 1:16.7 | protein powders out there don't actually work well because they're poor quality protein |
| 1:21.5 | from the wrong sources, and your gut has probably noticed if you've tried one. |
| 1:26.2 | If you ever had really bad gas or bloating after a protein shake, you know what I'm talking |
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