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Warning, this podcast contains explicit language, and by that we mean sex talk.

Hi, I'm Stoya. I'm a writer and semi-retired pornographer.

And I'm Rich Jezweak. I'm a writer.

Welcome to the How-To-Do-It podcast, where we try to help you with all of your sex and relationship issues twice a week.

You can ask us anything about sex or your bodies or dating etiquette or whatever.

We're here to help. So satisfaction is a thing that we want out of our relationships.

We want them to be mutually satisfying,

but it's not like a binary satisfied, not satisfied, it's more of a scale.

How satisfied should we expect to be by our partners?

I don't know.

I guess personally speaking, I expect to be satisfied sometimes.

I expect satisfaction to be part of the reality, but personally I never stay satisfied for long.

I don't know if it's kind of like my Larry David tendencies.

I do enjoy complaining a lot and I find myself appalled regularly

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