How to Disagree Productively and Find Common Ground | Julia Dhar

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🗓️ 15 November 2021

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Often it feels like the only thing we can agree on is that we can't agree on anything. World debate champion Julia Dhar offers three techniques to reshape the way we talk to each other so we can take our disagreements somewhere fruitful — over family dinners, during work meetings, and in our national conversations. Plus host Modupe Akinola explains why better arguments might start not with arguments at all, but with better questions. We hope you enjoy this episode from the TED Business archive, and find it helpful in any difficult conversations you have to navigate over the holiday season.

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0:00.0	Ted Audio Collective
0:08.0	When was the last time you disagreed with someone?
0:10.8	I know I do basically every time I check the news or attend a faculty meeting.
0:17.4	And if you're like me, when you disagreed, you might have thought to yourself, there
0:23.0	is no way I will ever see eye to eye with this person.
0:28.3	But with this type of thinking, we often miss a chance to see disagreement, not as a battle,
0:34.3	but as a negotiation, not as a dead end, but as an opportunity.
0:42.6	Welcome to the Ted Business Podcast.
0:44.9	I'm your host, Meduba Akinola, Associate Professor of Management at Columbia Business
0:50.1	School, and Director of the Sanford C. Bernstein Company Center for Leadership and Ethics.
0:56.9	Today's talk is from Julia Dar from Ted at BCG Toronto in 2018.
1:03.3	Julia is a partner and co-founder of Boston Consulting Group's Behavioral Economics and Insights
1:08.9	Initiative.
1:10.2	She teaches us how to constructively disagree with others, rather than forcefully imposing
1:15.1	our ideas on them, hoping to get them on our side.
1:19.0	And Lord knows the world needs that right now.
1:22.6	And of course, as a world champion debater, Julia would know a little something about
1:27.6	constructive disagreement.
1:29.5	Now, she uses these skills to teach and advise private and public sector organizations in
1:35.5	a whole host of industries on their strategic direction.
1:40.7	As you listen, pay close attention to how she makes the distinction between debating ideas
1:46.9	versus debating identities.
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