How To Date With a Disability

How To!

Slate Magazine

Business, Education, How To, Self-improvement

4.4 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 23 July 2024

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

Todd is looking for love, but he’s unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. With symptoms that are increasingly visible, Todd feels compelled to be upfront about his disability with potential dates—but he doesn’t know when or how to discuss it. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp, authors of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down While Chronically Ill and Disabled. They give Todd guidance on having that talk, navigating ableism, and managing his own internal expectations. If you liked this episode check out: How To Flirt With Confidence Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:38.0	I am a 60 year old heterosexual single male that as a frequent, if unsuccessful, user of dating apps and 30 years ago I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis
0:47.0	better known as NS. How should I relay this critical information when dating?
0:53.0	Welcome to How To, the show where listeners give us their trickiest questions,
0:58.0	and we find the perfect people to give them guidance.
1:01.0	I'm Carvel Wallace. This week's listener, Todd, was diagnosed with
1:05.8	multiple sclerosis about 30 years ago. MS is a chronic disease where the immune system attacks itself, and the way it presents is unpredictable.
1:15.1	You may see someone in a wheelchair, you may see someone snowboarding. They may both
1:20.0	have MS and you'll never know it. For the first decade of the disease, Todd wasn't experiencing symptoms,
1:26.0	which meant that people weren't really treating him differently,
1:29.0	and perhaps more importantly, he wasn't thinking of himself differently. He could still do all the physical things
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