How to Create Emotional Safety for Someone with Anxiety- Dealing with Anxiety in Children Part 2/4

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 11 May 2023

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Take my free course Grounding Skills for Anxiety: Take me to the free course Get notified when the course for parents of anxious kids is ready: Sign me up Your job as a parent is not to protect your child from anxiety but to help them learn to be resilient so that they can be functional and healthy humans. To learn the skills to manage emotions and make good choices, not to just try to make anxiety go away. When you learn how to change your fundamental approach to anxiety, you can create a space for your kids to change their relationship to anxiety - so that they can be healthy, resilient, self-assured and functional. The really cool thing about humans is that we can face a lot of challenges, difficulties, trauma or hardship if we just have one thing: Emotional Safety. The number one thing that creates emotional safety is connection. Your relationship with them is like the protective cover of a greenhouse, it creates the environment where growth is possible. Your connection provides warmth while they face challenges and grow. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0	Understanding mental health struggles can be tough.
0:03.0	That's why I created therapy in a nutshell to help make complicated therapeutic topics easy to understand and learn.
0:09.0	I'm Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and this is the Therapy in a nutshell podcast.
0:15.0	These episodes don't replace the need for mental health professionals or the advice given by doctors, but they
0:21.6	provide options, resources, and skills that can help you in your journey to better your own
0:26.8	mental health or help those around you who may be struggling. If you want to find more resources
0:32.8	or if you want to learn about courses I offer on specific mental health topics, please
0:37.1	stop by my website
0:38.0	at TherapyInanin' Unichel.com. Now, let's jump in to this week's skill. Okay, this video is two
0:44.1	of four of my series on how to help a child with anxiety. And in this video, you're going to
0:49.1	learn how to create an environment where your children can grow through their anxiety and overcome it. And we're going to use
0:55.3	the analogy of a greenhouse to talk about how to do this. Now, the goal of a greenhouse is not to
1:00.8	protect plants or to simply keep plants safe. The goal of a greenhouse is to create a space where
1:07.3	plants can grow up to be functional, healthy, and productive outdoors. Now, one thing most
1:12.2	people don't know about greenhouses is that they don't simply keep the plant comfortable.
1:16.5	A good greenhouse actually has all sorts of features that gradually introduce the seedlings
1:21.8	to challenges. These are things like fans and temperature changes, pot changes, and gradually
1:27.2	introducing the plants to more and more difficult conditions.
1:31.3	Now, your job as a parent is not to protect your child from anxiety, but to help them learn to be resilient so that they can be functional and healthy humans.
1:39.3	To learn the skills to manage emotions and make good choices. Your goal is not to just make anxiety go away.
1:46.5	Now in the last video we talked about the foundation of your greenhouse, your mindset.
1:52.4	When you learn how to change your fundamental approach to anxiety, you can create a space for
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