If I am not sustaining a behavior that I, in fact, do want to sustain, I need to look differently and not say, well, what's wrong with me?

It is, where is the friction with the approach, right? Because it might just be that it was too much.

I try to make too big of a change too quickly. It might have been I'm trying to make an unrealistic change.

It might be that I

haven't found the reason yet to actually believe that this is possible for me, or at least to not

believe that it's impossible, right? If the actions that you take to create a change are not

sustainable, then neither is the change. I mean, full stop, because if I can sustain the action, then I will

create the change. So whoever said change isn't easy. Well, that's kind of an understatement,

even change we want. And it's even harder to create the type of change that lasts, that sticks.

You muster up all your willpower and

determination only to eventually fall back into old habits, old patterns, and even if you

made progress, it just doesn't last. If you have experienced this, you're definitely not alone.

Sustainable transformation is one of the toughest things that we can do. I have been there

myself more times than I can count.

Caught in a kind of a frustrating cycle of trying and backsliding over and over again.

I never wonder what's really getting in your way?

Because I know I have.

What if the biggest roadblocks are actually some of the stories you've internalized about your own identity and what's possible?

Well, my guest today is Tanzan Webster and her new book, Say What They Can't Unhear.

The Nine Principles of Lasting Change provides a provocative new framework for really doing

just that, like creating lasting change. For years, Tamzin has been helping people achieve

lasting change on both a personal level,

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