I used to be completely stuck.

At 19, I had been arrested six times in one year, and I was at the absolute rock bottom of my life.

And it was not until I accepted these six truths that I was able to truly change my life, build a multi-million dollar company, and build myself into the woman that I'd always wanted to be.

So if you are ambitious, but you are lazy and you are ready to get unstuck, here is harsh truth number one. I call this the approval addiction. What if I told you that the real reason that you are stuck is not fear of failure, but it is actually your addiction to approval? When I first got into business, I remember that I actually was at a business mastermind. I was one of the youngest people there.

I was also one of the only females.

And I remember that someone came up to me.

And they told me, they were like, hey, is this what you normally wear? And I was like, yeah. And at the time, it was like I would wear like athleisure. I had like Lou Lemon clothes I was always wearing because it was comfortable. and I remember this person told me, they were like, so if you dress like this, I just want you to understand that nobody's ever going to take you seriously.

And so if you want to be taken seriously,

one, you have to cover your whole body. And two, you can't dress like this. And I remember thinking,

I was like, wait, are you serious? And they're like, yeah, everybody here, they're not going to take you

seriously unless you change how you dress. I want to say like the next four or five years. Like literally all I thought about when I was getting changed in the

morning was the fact of what they had said. And so I changed my whole wardrobe. And then I started dressing nothing I'd ever dressed like before. I threw out all of my clothes that I felt comfortable in. And every day when I did wear my clothes I felt comfortable in, I felt like people were looking at me funny. Like they wouldn't take me seriously. I felt like I couldn't go to a business meeting like that. And I end up just like losing confidence in myself. I remember until one day,

I realized that regardless of if I was dressing like that or I was dressing in the way that I wanted to dress, either I was getting the approval from others or I was getting approval for myself. And I had continued to sacrifice my own self-approval for the approval of all these other

people who I realized I didn't look up to. I didn't want their lives. And I actually didn't even

really respect them. And I said, what am I doing? So what I do, I put back on my clothes and I said,

fuck it. I'm going to do things so I'm going to do them. Now, here's the reality. Most people

hesitate to step up because they are terrified of being judged. They

want approval and they want to fit in just like I did more than they want to succeed, they want

to win, they want to have the life that they've always wanted to build. They want to be the

person that they want to be. If you're unwilling to be misunderstood, you are essentially

unwilling to get unstuck. So here's what I want you to do. Write down one thing that you're holding back on because you are afraid of what people will think about you. And then what you can do is you can take one small step towards that action today. Post a piece of content. Have a hard conversation with somebody. Just speak the truth to somebody. Put an idea, pen to paper. Do something. Allow yourself to be judged. Do not fight it. It's like a lot of the times when we feel like we're being judged, we immediately want to get out of that zone. We're like, I don't want to feel like I'm being judged. But if you just stay there and you allow yourself to be judged, what you will find on the other side of that is actually freedom. Because once you realize that you can tolerate judgment for other people, you can have anything

you want and you can be whoever you want.

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