So how do you break your bad boy habit? Why is it that you keep attracting these narcissists

or horrific men who are just sucking all your emotional energy dry and making you wonder why it is

you ever chose to start dating again? Well, that's what we're going to be talking about today.

And the big idea behind all of this is that in life and especially in dating, we tend to

gravitate toward what's comfortable for us, but not necessarily what's good for us.

In fact, I had a client as an executive love coach for those who are new to the channel.

I had a client I was speaking with and she came to me and she was like, I continue to attract all the wrong guys. I've been doing it for the channel. I had a client I was speaking with and she came to me and she was like,

I continue to attract all the wrong guys. I've been doing it for the past 20 years. I don't

know why it is that these guys seem to find me. I had this what she called a bad boy habit.

I'm like, I kind of love that. So I had a conversation with her and I think I really helped

her unlock this in her life.

And I want to give you some of the cliff notes of that conversation and how it all went.

So at the start of that conversation, I started breaking down.

Well, let's talk about what is a bad boy and why is it that you are attracted to him?

So in my experience, when women say that they're talking to a bad boy,

I always translated that into, I'm dating an attractive guy who doesn't want a relationship,

but I'm sleeping with him and the sex is really good. Basically, this guy has an edge to him. He's

mysterious. He's really attractive. He kind of leaves you in the what if zone what if it is a relationship what

if it's not he's not really very clear about that and that in some ways it's kind of hot to you and on

top of that he's the ultimate challenge right like if you think about it healthy guys healthy

commitment-focused men who just tell you how they feel and what they want, that can be kind of boring, right? Whereas this guy, the bad boy, he's never that direct with you. In fact, you always kind of wonder where does you stand with this guy? And that kind of draws you to his energy constantly.

And so if you are attracted to these types of guys, please give yourself a little bit of

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