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Women of Impact

How to Break the Addiction to Negative Thoughts—Before They Ruin Your Life | Marisa Peer (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

4.8701 Ratings

🗓️ 10 October 2025

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

This is a fan fav episode. Regardless of where you are located, your educational background, or your financial situation, we tend to have similar emotional and personal struggles, yet feel so isolated and alone dealing with them. Everyday stress and avoidant behaviors and habits leave you fearful, disappointed, and lacking enough significance in your own life to even prioritize YOU! Marissa Peer’s mission is to help people realize there are simple, rapid and effective techniques that can change life for the better. She is sharing these tactics here with Lisa and with you to understand the power that your words and thoughts have over your life. Put an end to your self-destructive behaviors and habits, get to the root of the feelings sabotaging you, and start telling yourself a better lie. “Thoughts dictate feelings, your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” Marisa Peer Check out Marisa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: ⁠https://amzn.to/39U2M7w⁠ SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Marissa Peer 0:25 | Control Your Thoughts, Not Your Feelings 23:29 | Start Practicing This! 42:49 | Find What Lies Beneath 59:23 | Bonus: Stop Feeling Trapped Original air date: 6-26-2022 Follow Marisa Peer: Website: ⁠https://marisapeer.com/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

So it's my job to go, okay, I do feel a bit scared of rejection, but hey, I'm just going to keep going anyway.

0:06.1

Nobody can reject me without my consent, and my consent is not given.

0:12.5

Procrastination is trying to protect you from failing, and you have a choice.

0:18.2

Give into it or talk yourself out of it.

0:22.2

You only ever have two choices.

0:24.3

I've got an amazing quote of yours that you broke down.

0:27.8

Thoughts dictate feelings.

0:29.4

Your feelings dictate your actions and your actions dictate your events.

0:33.8

But here's the thing.

0:34.9

We always focus on the feeling, not the thought. Yeah. But I love that you say everything stems from there. Yeah. So talk to me about that.

0:42.0

Because people say feelings come before thoughts. No, they don't. If I had a big plate of meat in front of you, what you think about that, it affects the feeling. If you're a vegan, it's disgusting for your bodybuilder. It's great. If I hold up a needle,

0:55.1

it's the thought, oh, that's going to hurt, that's going to make me high, that's going to have a

1:00.6

tattoo. So we all believe that we can't control our feelings. When you get it right, thoughts control

1:07.5

feelings. The thought comes before the feeling. When you go backwards again,

1:11.1

it's like, if everything starts with a thought, it's easier to change your thoughts and to

1:16.2

change your feelings. And if you just keep changing your thoughts, what happens is it actually

1:21.9

starts to change your entire life. So for instance, you might have a feeling. What is it? Is it scared or is it

1:29.6

excited? I don't know, because they feel exactly the same. If you watch someone on a roller

1:33.4

coast is screaming, are they scared? No, excited. They don't even know. But you get to choose to go,

1:38.6

I'm excited. I'm feeling great or I'm terrified and I'm falling apart.

1:45.0

And when you can start to think about what you're feeling

1:49.0

and decide to make it feel good, I'm feeling challenged,

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