You're looking at the main set so for example if you're aware that you've

walking up and you've got the oh my god you're rubbish the day is going to be

terrible you can now take it back and say okay this stuff's playing out again

there's a difference between seeing all this stuff's playing out again there's a difference between seeing all this stuff's playing out again

than qualifying that is I am terrible I am a disaster so the ability to create that space but

okay I know what this is this is just my kind of critic playing out again and I have a choice here to

observe this and not to get over involved.

Owen O'Kane is a psychotherapist and former NHS clinical lead for mental health.

He says there are daily things we can do to help us become our own therapists. This is the Lizzo Well-being show, the podcast helping us all have a better

second half. I'm Liz Earl and I'm on a bit of a mission to find ways for all of us to thrive in later life by investing in our health and our well-being today.

Well, how do you feel when I say the word therapy? Fearful, overwhelmed, curious.

Well, over the years, I've become more of a fan.

I have to say, and I've come to realize there is more than one kind of therapy

and that finding what works for you is really worth the effort, whether it's using something like EFT,

which we've talked about on this podcast before to help overcome deep trauma, or maybe having

relationship counselling with someone like James Earl, no relation, who writes such a brilliant

regular therapy column for the Lizzar Wellbeing magazine, or maybe you prefer to do a bit of

self-talk with mindful moments and journaling, all really good forms of personal

therapy and the kind of thing that I turn to more often these days to help sort out what is going on in my head.

Well, with dual medical and psychotherapy training,

Owen has over 25 years of experience,

working inside people's heads,

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