How To Be Your Future Self Now - with Dr Benjamin Hardy

On a Mission Podcast

Ellie McKay

4.4 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 22 November 2021

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Today I’m on a mission with organisational psychologist, multiple best-selling author, prolific blog creator with over 100m views, and father of six, Dr Benjamin Hardy.

Sometimes I feel like I’m drowning in self-development books and conflicting information from podcasts but Benjamin has a unique way of cutting through the bullshit and articulating things in a way that really lands!

Amongst other things we talk about the importance of levelling up in life, dealing with trauma and how we can control our reactions to the blows we will inevitably face.

A genuinely unmissable episode for all the high performers amongst us, constantly pushing but not always appreciating. This podcast is a game changer!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

All human beings mature over time. We are constantly evolving and growing, but people mature far slower than they could, as they rarely put themselves in positions that demand a swifter upgrade.
Trauma formulates within us in the aftermath of emotional pain, and when we frame the experience as a negative, and then isolate the pain by not discussing it.
We must have hope for the future and maintain meaning in the present. If we lose hope in the future then the present becomes a prison from which to escape. Many choose addiction or worse in this event.
Journaling can give us new perspectives. If we start to measure ourselves and look backwards, we can see the huge changes in our lives, the gains we have made, and provides us with a far more healthy mind-set as a person.

BEST MOMENTS

'I've always been a believer in putting yourself in a position where you're forced to adapt up to a higher degree of demand and responsibility'

'Trauma isn't what happens to you. It's what you hold on the inside in the absence of an empathetic witness'

'Addiction comes from suppressed trauma, and it's because you're keeping secret your painful emotions'

'I started to build hope back in my own future, and that helped me to get traction again in my life'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

On A Mission - https://omny.fm/shows/on-a-mission

Dr Benjamin Hardy - https://benjaminhardy.com

Dr Benjamin Hardy LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminhardy88/

ABOUT THE HOST

The On A Mission Podcast brings you Ellie Mckay's no holds barred chats with some of the UK's top business leaders, entrepreneurs, celebrities, athletes, top thought leaders, influencers and mindset experts.

On a Mission is for unconventional thinkers that want to challenge the status quo. For all those people on a mission to live their best lives and take control of their own destiny.

Ellie is a straight-talking, successful property entrepreneur who passionately believes that everyone has the power within themselves to transform their lives no matter what their situation.

As a mumpreneur with 3 young children and multiple businesses, Ellie likes to keep it real with her no-bs insights and share the things that have helped her achieve the level of success she has enjoyed to date.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome and thank you so much for joining me, Benjamin.
0:03.0	So happy to be with you. So happy.
0:06.5	I don't even know where to start because you've achieved so much and your content is just amazing.
0:13.6	Perhaps we could take a bit of a trip down memory lane and you could tell the list and there's
0:18.7	a little bit about your own backstory because it kind of pre-frames a lot of the work that you've
0:23.5	done subsequently.
0:25.5	Sure. Yeah, absolutely. Very briefly.
0:29.8	I grew up in Salt Lake City, Utah and I think kind of the big parts of my story are really
0:38.0	when my parents got divorced. I talk about this quite a bit in personalities and permanent.
0:42.4	But for some reason or another when my parents got divorced and obviously divorce is,
0:46.8	you know, it's epidemic. Most marriage is end in divorce but it is huge on kids. I was 11 years old,
0:52.4	oldest of three and we were pretty dang religious actually as a family. And what was interesting
0:59.1	was that after the divorce, both of my parents just chose completely different lifestyles than the
1:04.3	one I had grown up with. My mom, you know, chose totally different lifestyle. My dad became actually
1:08.4	a drug addict because he was so depressed by the divorce itself. And I was the oldest kind of just
1:15.7	trying to like hold on to any form of like structure or reality. And it took a lot of adjusting.
1:23.1	I went through a lot of depression, started surrounding myself with different types of kids,
1:26.8	you know, became somewhat of a troublemaker, barely graduated high school. I actually don't know how
1:31.5	I graduated high school. And basically after high school, I was doing nothing with my life. I was
1:38.4	living at my cousin's house playing a game online called World of Warcraft for probably like 15
1:43.7	plus hours a day. No job, no ambition towards my future self. And growing increasingly depressed.
1:52.1	And so it was kind of a decision of mine through a lot of introspection to kind of leave that life
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