Jordana and Naomi start the week with some tips for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and stop avoiding them with distractions. Naomi offers a great explanation of why it’s okay to lean into the physical feelings of emotion (painful as they may be). Then a listener writes in to ask how to cope with a recent failed relationship and find a sense of hope for the future. They examine a list of “qualities we want to find in a relationship” that she received from her therapist. Should we all examine our list of qualities that we’re looking for in a partner, or is it better to let things come naturally? Then another listener emails with a challenging Betchicist question: at what point is it okay to ask your future spouse to start therapy before getting married? In this case, is it fair to ask her boyfriend to confront his complicated feelings toward his mother? Finally, they close with a game of Triggered featuring a trio of tense situations resulting in anxiety, embarrassment, and a little jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices